Many people who have been divorced can remember the moment they decided things were over, and it was usually after a series of messy and disappointing incidents.
A woman has officially decided to divorce her husband of 13 years because he’s expecting a baby with another woman, even though he has no job or means of financial support.
She and her husband have a long history, as they were once high school sweethearts. They lost touch for many years, each entering relationships with other people, and then found themselves in love again years later.
When they married 13 years ago, she and her husband each had a child from a previous marriage, so they created a blended family. They were happily married for a few years before a series of incidents changed everything.
Things began going downhill when her husband got hurt at work and suffered a major injury, needing to have surgery.
“Because of the nature of his work, he could no longer perform the job he was hired to do and was eventually let go,” she said.
“When we reconnected, I had already owned my own home, and he and his son moved in with me. I found out that he lied about the house he had been staying in before we were married; it belonged to his father, not him.”
Suddenly, once her husband was out of work, he told her he couldn’t help her pay for household expenses because all of his money was tied up in his dad’s house. To make matters worse, nothing ever came out of that house, as two years later, it was foreclosed on, and her father-in-law had to move in with them.
Even though there was an extra person in the house, no one ever offered to help her, and she supported her household of five all on her own.
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Things became more stressful over the years. She worried about paying for their children’s private school tuition, but since her husband wouldn’t budge, her daughter went to public school while her stepson stayed in private school for a year.
She felt herself getting worn down, stressing out over money and family matters, and not even wanting to be near her husband, who was consistently letting her down.
“During this time, he had tried half a dozen different jobs and still was not offering financial support,” she recalled.
“About two more years go by, I was dissatisfied but still trying to stay committed. I end up pregnant with our daughter. He was very controlling during the pregnancy [and] we fought like cats and dogs.”
Her youngest child, her daughter, is now in kindergarten and had a friend over for a few playdates.
The friend’s mom knew her husband, but when she invited her to their house, she didn’t like the vibes she got, so she told her husband she didn’t want that woman coming around anymore.
Then, her husband began acting very suspicious.
He backed out of a family road trip at the last minute, became agitated, and, after a few months, admitted he was having an affair with the woman from the play date and that he got her pregnant, which broke her heart and made her furious.
She decided the best thing to do for herself and her kids would be to divorce her husband.
“I absolutely refuse to be financially responsible for his outside child or him any longer, and he has agreed to leave but [is] saying he has nowhere to go,” she explained.
“As far as I am concerned, that is not my problem. I have supported him and his oldest son for 13 years. Our children do not know the truth of his transgressions, and I struggle with how to tell them we are getting divorced.”
She is being generous, as she’s not going to ask for any money from her husband or limit his time with their kid. She simply wants him out of her house and to leave her alone.
However, she is beginning to feel a bit guilty, as she has been carrying her husband for 13 years, and she isn’t sure how he’ll be able to handle this in the next chapter.
Should she feel guilty, or is she doing the right thing?
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