Katharina Buczek
When this 39-year-old woman first met her boyfriend Dave, who is 43, about two and a half years ago, he was separated from his ex-wife for around one year.
He and his ex had three children together, and after she started dating David, she met his ex numerous times. His ex has since gone on to have another baby with a different guy.
So, throughout her relationship with Dave, she’s tried asking him why he didn’t just finalize his divorce with his ex as opposed to simply remaining “separated.”
“And he said that divorces are costly, and neither of them plans to get married again, so why bother,” she explained.
“He mentioned (jokingly) that he will finalize his divorce when he proposes to me.”
Anyway, things in her and Dave’s relationship have been great, and his kids absolutely adore her. But while she understands that he and his ex are co-parenting, she really can’t stop feeling like a third wheel.
Apparently, his ex is constantly over at their house. Plus, his ex and her new baby have joined every single vacation they’ve ever taken with the other three kids.
“I told him this is so uncomfortable because it feels like they have an open marriage, and I’m part of whatever that is,” she admitted.
Even after she opened up about her feelings, though, Dave didn’t understand her perspective. He was adamant that he and his ex were “truly done” and that he wasn’t in an open marriage.
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