This woman’s husband is a successful businessman, and they have been in a relationship for the last seven years.
She and her husband both worked their hearts out to get to where they are in life, and she stayed by his side back when he was wearing worn-out shoes with nothing to his name.
Not too long ago, her husband confessed to her that it’s always been his desire to sleep with tons of women, and he’s growing fearful of controlling those urges.
“And [he] told me that [he’s] honestly fearing that he might cheat on me behind my back,” she explained.
“And he is looking to expand his business more, and he needs that freedom in all parts of his life to reach his targets, and he wants to do it with me by his side.”
“I sadly agreed, not being able to see him struggle to control himself and not being able to let go of him. I want to support him in everything he does and want to see him have it all in life.”
She gave her husband a set of rules to protect her own sanity and maintain a level of respect. This isn’t going to be easy for her to allow her husband to sleep with other women, though, since her dad cheated on her mom growing up, and he had no regrets.
As a kid, she had to watch her mom struggle and suffer with this, and she never wanted to sign up for the same life as her mom.
This certainly traumatized her, and she actually dropped out of college amid the cheating and subsequent divorce of her mom and dad.
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She admitted to her husband that she’s going to have a hard road ahead of her allowing him to be so free.
She requested that her husband be patient and prove to her that he loves her so that she can forget about what he’s doing with other women.
Things were fine for the following two days after she expressed her concerns to her husband, but then she felt a lot of doubt about her marriage.
All along, she’s believed her husband and marriage to be the only things that give her stability, and they have become her identity as well.
She’s encountered a lot over the years, but she was always able to rely on her husband and rock-solid marriage to see her through.
“Now that even [my] marriage has been compromised, I feel like I don’t know who I am,” she said.
“Before, when these [hard] situations had come in life, I managed to crawl up from under the rock with a brim of hope. But day by day, that voice of hope inside my heart is dying. Maybe the challenges that I have faced have made me like that.”
“Once I started feeling this and identified the trigger, I told my husband about it, and he did not take it well.”
Her husband doesn’t express empathy at all and barely has emotions. She just wanted him to hear her out, but he kept trying to give her advice.
He then argued with her that she gave him the freedom to pursue his dreams, and now she’s attempting to hold him back with consequences, whatever that means.
He then began to cry as he insisted she find a way to deal with her emotions without suffocating him in the process.
She thinks he was just worn out from working (he tends to work 14 to 15 hours every day), and that’s why he got so upset with her for spilling out her emotions.
“I can’t whisper a word about this to my friends because, honestly, in this rollercoaster journey to become rich, I have lost all of them,” she continued.
“My family is not mature enough to comfort me. They, in turn, need my shoulder to cry on, so I can’t be vulnerable before them, considering my parents look at me as if I am their parent.”
She can’t imagine leaving her husband over this. She doesn’t have it in her to try to love someone else and move on.
What advice do you have for her?
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