Bre Avery Zacharski
“I’ve asked him many times throughout our relationship if he’s sure he’s ok with not having kids, and he’s always given me the same “answer,” which is “I could take it or leave it,” she said.
“So now I know that he’s been hiding this for years. But the thing that really bothers me is that he treated me like I was overreacting and that I should be willing to stay with him while he figures it out for sure. He says he’s “leaning in the direction of being ok with it” and “sees his future with me.”
She’s been certain about not wanting kids throughout her whole life. Every single person who knows her is aware of her position on kids.
Any time she dated a new guy, she would tell them within the first few weeks of being serious that she wasn’t into kids. She never kept that a secret from anyone.
Yesterday evening, she told her boyfriend she would allow him the next two months to figure things out.
He got mad at her and said she was dishing out an ultimatum and that it wasn’t enough time for him to know.
“Then I realized I can’t even wait around for 2 months for someone to make up their mind about me, as I’d just be angry and push him away the whole time,” she continued.
“It ended with him saying that he made up his mind and realizes he can live without kids but doesn’t want to live without me. I think he said that to shut me up.”
“We have been talking about couples’ counseling for a few months anyway; is this something I should even bother addressing? Because right now, it just feels like it’s better to end it because he sounds so unsure. Am I overreacting?”
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