Bre Avery Zacharski
Well, it turns out that for years, this 36-year-old woman’s 37-year-old boyfriend has been lying to her about not wanting to have kids.
They’ve actually been friends for the longest time and began dating back in 2019 after 13 solid years of friendship.
They spent the next three years together before breaking up, as they each had things they had to work through. A year ago, they resumed their relationship.
“Well, this past year has been going so well with us, and I thought there were hints being dropped that an engagement could be around the corner (conversations about how much I think is appropriate to spend on an engagement ring, etc.),” she explained.
“So, up until last weekend, I thought we were both on the same page about spending our lives together. Last weekend, the topic of marriage came up, and he told me that, just FYI, he’s definitely not ready to think about marriage yet. I was stunned and pretty heartbroken the next couple of days. I asked him how long he thought it may be before he’s ready, and he said he couldn’t put a time limit on it but maybe a year.”
They discussed things further, and her boyfriend admitted to her he’s on the fence about remaining child-free.
He’s not sure that he can live with not having the opportunity to be a dad, and he would like her to stick with him while he takes the next year to figure it out.
Even at the end of that time period, she knows there is no guarantee that her boyfriend will have the whole kids thing figured out.
She feels blindsided, as she thought her boyfriend wanted to be child-free, as he’s spent years telling her that. Turns out he lied.
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