“While I felt terrible for him, I was worried about my house,” she admitted.
Tim has apparently always had a hoarding problem, and she was worried that he’d bring his habits into her home and turn her life upside down. She views her house as her safe place, and she can’t deal with the thought of it becoming chaotic and cluttered.
“So, I said no,” she revealed.
Her refusal to help her brother out triggered a domino effect of events, too. Tim and his fiancée Lisa actually wound up breaking up. Afterward, Lisa moved back into her parent’s house; meanwhile, Tim started sleeping in his car.
“And recently, I found out that Lisa is pregnant, which makes me feel even worse about the situation,” she vented.
Tim has not spoken to her ever since she turned him down. On top of that, he will not accept any help from her now after his life has already fallen to pieces.
All of this has left her wondering if not letting her “hoarder brother” move into her home in the first place was justified or really just made her a jerk.
What’s more important – maintaining your personal boundaries or helping out your family? Did she have a right to prioritize her own household over her brother’s needs or not? What would you have done in her shoes?
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