When this woman and her now-husband were planning their wedding, they each decided to have six bridesmaids and six groomsmen.
It took them three years to plan and organize their wedding, and they spent more than $30,000 on the event.
At the beginning of her engagement, most of her friends weren’t in relationships, including one of her bridesmaids named Anna.
Two of her other bridesmaids were in committed relationships, so she only wanted to allow these women to bring their partners as plus-ones.
In response to this, Anna expressed her frustration with this because she was dating someone (whom she is now married to), but at the time, the relationship wasn’t serious yet. Later, her mother convinced her to allow all of her bridesmaids to bring plus-ones.
“Anna actually continued to date that guy and married him four months before my wedding, at two months pregnant. She brought her new husband as her plus-one (who I’d never met prior) and convinced one of the other bridesmaids to take her friend as hers (when she KNEW we didn’t like him),” she said.
On her wedding day, she and Anna were both 25. According to her husband’s culture, anyone getting pregnant earlier than their late 20s or early 30s, regardless of whether or not they were married, was shocking and frowned upon in the same way that teen pregnancies are looked down on in other cultures.
“She drew ATTENTION. She also has a vibrant personality and has a way of eclipsing everyone around her. Her husband is also very tall and incredibly attractive, which drew a lot of attention. All anyone spoke about or of was Anna’s pregnancy and her attractive husband. Even in line, people were asking about that ‘electric woman,'” she explained.
Plus, all of her wedding guests asked questions about Anna’s pregnancy, her recent marriage, and just her life in general.
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During the reception, when everyone started leaving their seats to head to the dancefloor, they looked at Anna in awe.
“Anna’s friend ended up hooking up with my brother, outing him as gay, and causing a huge scandal. I ended up leaving midway through the reception in tears and never attended the next morning’s brunch. Anna and her entourage left early the next morning and also didn’t attend,” she shared.
Now, she can’t enjoy looking through her wedding photos without sobbing because of how devastated she feels. She wishes she could do her wedding all over again.
While she wouldn’t label herself a “bridezilla,” she thinks that Anna stealing her thunder was unacceptable.
On her wedding day, it didn’t feel like she and her groom were the focus; instead, it felt like a whole event to celebrate Anna’s recent marriage.
She worked so hard and spent a lot of money and time organizing her wedding, and she doesn’t feel like she was able to enjoy her special day since Anna, who got pregnant without planning to and then quickly got married, was the one everyone paid the most attention to.
As she reflects on the situation, she wonders if Anna purposely outshined her as payback. Years ago, she deeply upset Anna, so she thinks it’s possible that Anna wanted to get her back.
Do you think Anna owes her? Do you think Anna “ruined” her wedding on purpose?
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