She felt irritated that he thought it was fine to even give his coworker his personal phone number. Her fiancé said he would respond to his coworker that he didn’t think to send her any jokes that day since he was wrapped up with work. She hoped her fiancé would stop talking to his coworker after that.
Yesterday, her fiancé arrived home from work quiet and sulky. After a bit of time, he revealed to her that he told his coworker she was insecure about their friendship, so his coworker’s solution was to no longer speak to him for any reason.
“He was crying and told me that she’s just like a younger sister (he’s an only child), and he was happy that she trusted him, but he was forced to end the relationship because of me,” she continued.
“I apologized and told him that I had expected him to keep my feelings private and adjust his behavior rather than telling her everything. He said that would be dishonest, and he didn’t want to distance himself from her without making her aware of the situation.”
She questioned her fiancé about why he felt so strongly about having extremely personal conversations with a much younger woman, and he got angry with her.
Her fiancé accused her of stealing his joy and being mad that he’s way too happy ever since he met his coworker.
Her fiancé expressed that he wishes she never said anything about her feelings of insecurity. She’s left thinking that her fiancé destroyed her trust in him by being so forthcoming with his coworker.
It’s not that she’s jealous of their friendship; it’s that she thinks it’s inappropriate of her fiancé to discuss super steamy topics with a female coworker in the first place, and that’s what started the ball rolling on her suspecting their work friendship was off.
“He is convinced that I ruined their relationship by being jealous,” she said. “I feel really bad because he was very happy at work and was happy about joking around and having lunch with her, but he said that because of me, they can’t have any kind of relationship at all.”
“Was my expression of feeling insecure the catalyst? Should I have kept this to myself?”
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