Over the last four years, this 25-year-old woman has been dating her 24-year-old boyfriend. Unfortunately, throughout the majority of the time they have been together, her boyfriend hasn't been able to keep a job for over six months. She loves her boyfriend, and while he's sweet and loving, she's extremely worried about his lack of direction, ambition, and work ethic. She's stopped counting the number of jobs her boyfriend has had, and one only lasted her boyfriend a month. "He has also gone through multiple periods of unemployment due to either being laid off/quitting a job without having anything else lined up," she explained. "I have a bachelor's degree in accounting and have been working in the field since I graduated 3 years ago. I don't want to brag, but I do make really good money for someone my age and have a great job with great benefits." "I have worked very hard for this job; school was hard for me, and finding a job after graduation was not much easier. I am proud of my accomplishments. I can't help but feel like I want a partner who is in a similar situation...has a good career and takes pride in what they do." She knows there is more to life than your career, and it can't be your whole identity, but she just wishes her boyfriend cared more. She would prefer to be with a man who knows what he wants out of his job and has some sort of drive or purpose. Her boyfriend has an associate's degree in an industry she says is useless, and her boyfriend never came up with a career plan. [caption id="attachment_318765" align="alignnone" width="595"] gstockstudio - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person[/caption] Sign up for Chip Chick's newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox. When he does work, he doesn't care what kind of a job he has, so he ends up quitting because he hates it on a long enough timeline. Additionally, her boyfriend hardly makes an effort and won't show up on time, which contributes to employers firing him. She's financially and emotionally at the end of her rope here. She's been living with her boyfriend for the last two years and they were supposed to evenly split the bills, but that didn't last long at all as her boyfriend has no money. "He has been giving me a flat $500 for rent, utilities, etc., and I have been covering the rest," she said. "We live in an expensive area, and $500 is, unfortunately, not a large chunk of our expenses at all. It is less than a third. I am growing so resentful of this every day...it's not fair. I don't want to be supporting a grown man." "Sometimes I feel like he thinks I'm made of money; he makes comments here and there about how much I make and how I don't have to worry about money. I make good money, as I said earlier, but I still make a very normal middle-class income. The way he talks, sometimes you would think I'm a millionaire." Her boyfriend knows she's over his job issues, and he admitted to her recently that he's down to $300 left to his name. This obviously isn't enough to help cover his costs of living and this month; it's going to be on her to come up with the money for both of their expenses. She's so upset and she's out of patience or sympathy. While she is in love with her boyfriend and some parts of their relationship are excellent, she's too stressed out about him being unemployed. They constantly fight about money, and her boyfriend simply makes empty promises to do better and change. "If he could get it together with his job, everything would be perfect," she continued. "But I am losing hope that will ever happen." "Should I leave him? Let him move back in with his parents to figure his [stuff] out?" You can read the original post on Reddit here.
