Katharina Buczek
He also clarified how, in his mind, he’s not trying to oppose his wife. Rather, he wants to work with her and feels like she isn’t meeting him in the middle. He’s fatigued from her “unregulated emotions and crying” and believes that her responses never result in any productive changes or discussions.
That’s why, once she started crying about the grocery bill, he decided not to invest any more energy into her emotions.
“I simply said that I’ll come back after she gets a grip, eases and calms down, and has time to reflect on what I said versus how she’s reacting,” he recalled.
“Because I never attacked her. I simply reminded her to be mindful of our budget.”
In hindsight, he realizes that telling his wife to “get a grip” might have been wrong, and he isn’t proud of how he worded everything.
“But keeping in mind I was frustrated, and at the end of my rope, it was the kindest thing I could’ve said,” he vented.
Nonetheless, his wife was still hurt and felt like he was being insensitive and treating her like a child.
So now, he’s been left wondering if walking away from his pregnant wife when she started crying again was a reasonable response or not.
Can you understand why he’s getting so emotionally exhausted? Does it sound like his wife is struggling, too? How can they work together on this?
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