She Told Her Fiancé That He Could “Move Back Home With Mommy” And Called Off Their Engagement Because His Mom Keeps Interfering And Making Excuses To Delay Their Wedding
This woman’s fiancé proposed three years ago, and they’ve been dating for seven years. She gave birth to their daughter seven months ago. They chose four different wedding dates, but on every occasion, her fiancé’s mother persuaded him to hold off until later.
His mother argued that they had more important issues to focus on, claiming they should purchase a home before getting married (she and her fiancé still rent a place) because she didn’t think their living situation was “stable.”
Her future mother-in-law claimed they weren’t financially comfortable enough for marriage, even though they let her borrow $8,000 when she nearly lost her home. She’s a lawyer, and her fiancé is a registered nurse, so they earn impressive salaries.
She and her fiancé have planned a low-key, inexpensive wedding. They want to gather their families and hold the wedding in her mother’s massive, three-acre backyard. Her mom has a gorgeous pond in the yard, so it would be an amazing wedding location.
To save money on the food, they decided to do a potluck. Since all their guests live an hour or less from her mother’s house, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to notify their loved ones of the wedding date a month or two in advance.
The most recent excuse her fiancé’s mother came up with for holding off on marriage was for their daughter to be the flower girl. His mom said they could get married when their daughter was 3 or older. In December, she and her fiancé settled on an August wedding date.
“I told him, ‘Don’t let your mom dictate it,’ and he said he wouldn’t and was tired of listening to her,” she said.
A few weekends ago, their moms came over to their place for dinner. She discussed the dress she hoped her mother could wear as the matron of honor. Later, her fiancé’s mother questioned when they were going to inform her that they’d settled on a wedding date.
Her fiancé told his mom she’d find out when all the other wedding guests did. All his mom said in response was, “‘Oh,'” and she sat silently before leaving 20 minutes later.
Piman Khrutmuang – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Her fiancé had already promised his mom to help her set up her cable box, and he went to her house not long after dinner. She stayed home and drank wine with her mother. Once her fiancé returned home, he didn’t say much, claiming he was exhausted and wanted to go to sleep.
Several nights later, out of nowhere, her fiancé said that his mother made a good argument about why they should hold off on their wedding. He wondered if they should purchase a home before marriage for stability.
In his view, his mom was right about how they should be concerned with having a more permanent living situation. She didn’t respond because she was too furious to speak. While her fiancé talked, he repeatedly assured her they’d only have to hold off on marriage for five years at the maximum.
“I just took my ring off and handed it to him and said I was no longer interested. He immediately started protesting and trying to put the ring back on my finger, and I wouldn’t let him. I said I was no longer interested in marrying him, and maybe he should move back home with Mommy,” she explained.
She also told him she was certain that as soon as they purchased a home, his mother would find another reason why they shouldn’t get married yet. During her rant, she expressed her disinterest in marrying a man with “no backbone.”
“I have zero business marrying a man who would put our lives on hold in favor of a woman who still wants to scrub his back in the shower (I was mean about it),” she shared.
While it wasn’t accurate that her fiancé’s mother wanted to scrub his back in the shower, his mom spoke often and happily about how she supposedly needed to scrub his back for several months after he’d broken his leg at 16.
Whenever his mom relayed the story, she said that he constantly assured her he didn’t need her to help him, but she didn’t listen and continued scrubbing his back during his showers anyway. She had always felt that this story, and how his mother told it, was incredibly strange.
Her fiancé was in tears while she was relaxed, and she assumed she wasn’t emotional because she was sick of the situation. She told him she wanted him to get out and that if he wouldn’t leave, she would. He left the house still crying, and she felt guilty and horrible.
Her fiancé is important to her, but she can’t stay with him when he allows his mother to get in the way of their relationship.
After she broke up with her fiancé, his mother bombarded her with text messages, attempting to explain why she wanted them to hold off on marriage.
In response, she texted his mom to say, “No, it’s fine. You won. Now you can have your baby boy back full-time.'” Once she sent the message, she blocked her fiancé’s mother. Her friends told her she was overdramatic and didn’t take her side.
Do you think she did the right thing?
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