His Girlfriend Freaked Out On Him For Ordering His Ex Flowers For Mother’s Day
15 years ago, this 39-year-old man and his 38-year-old ex ended their relationship. They had two daughters together super young, and the girls are now 19 and 17.
He and his ex have had highs and lows over the years, but for the past decade, they have thrown their bitterness out the window for the sake of their girls.
He frequently sees his girls and has an excellent relationship with them. Speaking of relationships, he’s in a new one and has a 39-year-old girlfriend.
He came home on his lunch break one day, and his girlfriend was sitting on the couch working on her laptop.
He went to make lunch for himself in the kitchen before remembering that he should call a local florist and order flowers for Mother’s Day.
“I call the floral shop, and I order two arrangements: one for the mother of my kids and the other for my mother,” he explained.
“After I finish the call I hang up and take my lunch into the living room, where my girlfriend immediately glares at me over her computer. I ask her what’s wrong, and she flips.”
His girlfriend feels that he disrespected her by buying his ex flowers. She’s also angry that he didn’t get her flowers. She argued she’s a stepmom to his girls, and she believes his kids are old enough that he should not have to have any contact with his ex.
“I argued back that I have always bought flowers for their mother on Mother’s Day (this made her more upset because she was unaware; she claims she needs to be aware of any and all gifts I give to my ex),” he said.
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“I told her that buying her flowers for Mother’s Day was unnecessary because she wasn’t a stepmom.”
Now, two years ago, when he was getting ready to ask his girlfriend out on a date, he spoke with his oldest daughter about it.
She mentioned to him that she didn’t want to have a stepmom or additional mom, as she has a mom already.
His daughter went on to say that she was just too old to add another woman in her life who could play a maternal role.
To this day, both of his daughters show his girlfriend respect, but they call her by her first name, and his girlfriend is not a stepmom to them in the least.
Anyway, after he responded to his girlfriend’s meltdown, she ended up crying. He never wanted to make her cry, but he did want to make her aware of the boundaries that he has.
His ex will always be a part of his life, as their girls connect them. He even said this to his girlfriend before they began dating so he could properly set expectations.
“It’s not like once my daughters turn 18, we no longer need to speak ever again; we have been through a lot and are completely civil,” he continued.
“I want to emphasize that there is NOTHING there with my ex anymore, but we will share the same grandchildren (and children!) for the rest of our lives.”
“I wanted to set that boundary now out of respect for my daughters, if anything. I do not want my girlfriend to influence my co-parenting situation at all, but how do I keep the peace but stand my ground?”
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