“My fiancé doesn’t even want to do a honeymoon (travel is important to me) because he wants to focus on saving as much as possible because he feels responsible for his parents. I love my fiancé so much and am excited to marry him, but I don’t want to be burdened by his parents’ poor planning,” she shared.
Because her parents have told her they’d help her and her fiancé with a down payment on a house, she’d feel bad that her parents’ money that they worked hard for would be used to support her future in-laws, who didn’t save money responsibly for their future. In her view, it wouldn’t feel right.
She wouldn’t want her marriage to begin with stress. Because she and her fiancé have a lot of money in savings, she feels bitter and resents that her fiancé has to be concerned with financially supporting his parents.
From her perspective, her fiancé’s attention and finances should be on their future and trips. It feels like their marriage won’t be her fiancé’s priority. She worries their marriage will be put on the back burner until her in-laws pass away.
While she acknowledged that the situation isn’t great for her fiancé, either, she doesn’t feel excited about planning their wedding anymore because she’s worried that after they’re married, her in-laws’ issues will be her issues.
What advice would you give her?
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