Chip Chick
Before she learned how many people her cousin planned to invite, she thought she’d see what her cousin was planning. She assumed that her cousin would have a smaller wedding reception similar to hers.
So, she asked her cousin to come to her house to explain the details of her own reception to give her an idea of what to expect.
“I gave her kind of an outline she could use, including all the catering, decor, and florists (I made her a meticulous package on Google Docs and shared it with her). She seemed to agree with everything I was saying with a smile,” she explained.
During their conversation, she told her cousin that her husband would be gone for the next three weeks, and she’d be away for a week, too, but she assured her cousin that she could still come over to her house for wedding planning if needed, requesting that she just let her know ahead of time.
She and her husband take trips often, so they’ve given her mother keys to their home in case of emergency. Later, her mother sent her a text to ask if her cousin could go over to her house with someone whom she’d hired to help with outdoor seating arrangements.
In response, she asked her mother to be at the house to supervise and that, under this stipulation, she’d allow it.
Before her cousin and the person she hired went to her house, her mother informed her about her cousin’s lengthy guest list.
Also, her cousin wanted to hold the reception inside the house, even though she’d told her cousin when they got together in person that this would be prohibited. She’d also written this in the Google Doc she shared with her cousin.
“My mom told her she cannot tour with the organizer inside the home– that the owners have not given permission. This upset my cousin. When the organizers left, she became very upset and stormed out on bad terms. Her mother then called my mother to complain ruthlessly about me. I just got back today, and I’m told I’m being accused of being ‘spoiled, ‘selfish,’ and ‘small’-hearted,'” she shared.
In her view, these insults are unfair. When she told her husband about the drama with her cousin, he said her cousin and her cousin’s family were rude to her, and because of their behavior, they shouldn’t be allowed to have their wedding reception at their house anymore.
Even though she knows this will complicate wedding planning for her cousin, she doesn’t think it would be her fault since her cousin disrespected the rules she set.
