Bre Avery Zacharski
A year ago, this 34-year-old woman got divorced from her 36-year-old husband after five years of marriage.
Her now ex-husband has found another woman to date, and this new woman is interested in potentially marrying her ex-husband in the future.
She was shocked when this woman made contact with her in an effort to understand why she got divorced from her ex-husband in the first place.
“She reached out to me to hear my side of the story,” she explained. “I’m not sure what he’s told her, but it seems she’s cautious and wants to understand what happened between us better, thinking it would help her gain clarity.”
“My ex and I are no longer in contact. The root cause of all our major issues in the marriage came from him being deceitful by nature. [He was an] absolute smooth talker, but [I] couldn’t trust a word that came out of his mouth. I didn’t see this until much later in the marriage due to all the gaslighting.”
“As a woman, I can genuinely understand where she’s coming from. I’ve been in her shoes, wanting answers. However, revisiting my side of the story is emotionally draining, and I’d rather not go down that road again. I want to warn her about the potential red flags, but I also don’t want to unduly influence her decision-making process.”
Her ex-husband’s red flags are not instantly recognizable. His red flags creep up over time and are subtle, so it’s hard to tell.
She feels that if she does take the time and energy to explain everything to this woman, she’s still unsure of how much of a benefit her personal experience will be to this woman.
There is a piece of her that desperately hopes her ex-husband has been able to change and become a better person since their divorce, but she believes this is extremely unlikely.
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