“He got really upset, even tearful, asking why I would invite my boyfriend and who he was to our daughter. I think he’s afraid my boyfriend will take over his role,” she explained.
During the conversation, her ex questioned if she told their daughter that her new boyfriend was her new father or her uncle when she first met him, which she thought was outrageous. She noted that when her ex introduced her to his then 14-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, he told his daughter, “‘Here’s your new mom.'”
Later, her ex told her that if her boyfriend showed up to the party, he wouldn’t be attending. By the time their daughter’s birthday rolls around, their daughter and her boyfriend will have bonded a lot.
They already have a close bond, and her boyfriend loves her daughter. On the other hand, her daughter adores her father and would understandably be heartbroken if she wasn’t there to celebrate her special day.
Her ex has never put together a birthday party for their daughter. She has always been the one doing all the work and paying for everything.
Plus, her ex only pays a little over $75 per month in child support. This only pays for food for roughly three of the 27 days a month that she has custody of their daughter, so it obviously doesn’t help too much.
She goes above and beyond for her ex’s other daughter, who is 20 now, as well as her ex’s cousin when her ex should have been the one doing this.
“They both have their birthday around the same time. Birthday celebrations aren’t a big thing in Cameroon, where he’s from, so the first time I celebrated his oldest daughter’s birthday when she was 18, it was the first time she’d ever had a birthday cake or a present for her birthday. I got our daughter, his daughter, and his cousin a cake and a present,” she shared.
Every year, she’s continued to spend money on birthday celebrations for her ex’s other daughter and cousin when she doesn’t have a lot of money. Her ex never buys anything for his older daughter or his cousin, but he does buy their daughter gifts.
Since her boyfriend makes a higher income than she does, he’s been purchasing essentials for her. A while ago, her boyfriend paid for her and her daughter to go on vacation with him. Her ex has gone on trips on his own, never taking their daughter with him.
Now, she wants to invite her boyfriend to the party, and she doesn’t really care if this means her ex will refuse to meet her boyfriend or show up at the party. At the same time, she doesn’t want their daughter to be upset on her birthday.
