She Liquidated Her Younger Daughter’s College Fund To Support Her Oldest, And Now Her Youngest Won’t Speak To Her
Six months ago, this 48-year-old woman’s oldest daughter, 24, had her fourth child.
Her daughter used to be a dishwasher. Unfortunately, she developed chronic back pain after the birth of her second child, and when she had her third child, she broke her tailbone and suffered more chronic pain exacerbated by standing or moving around too much.
Because of her daughter’s chronic pain, she can’t work jobs that require too much standing or moving around.
Once she left her previous job, her daughter got a temp job at an office, but after only a week, her supervisor didn’t think it was going well and let her go.
Her daughter’s supervisor wasn’t kind or understanding, and she told her daughter that it should have taken her three days at the most to be trained on data entry, adding that she didn’t have the time to train “slow learners.”
She assumes that this supervisor gave her daughter bad feedback to the temp agency because her daughter didn’t have any luck finding another position through the agency.
Her daughter’s boyfriend, 28, works at Walmart, but his hours fluctuate drastically. While her daughter was pregnant, he was able to get a lot more hours.
According to her daughter’s boyfriend, he is planning to start looking for a more reliable job, but he hasn’t had enough time to do so because he wants to spend time with his family throughout the holiday season.
“I feel a lot of empathy for my daughter and her boyfriend and wish I could help them out more, but I myself am a single mom working for a nursing home where I struggle to get full-time hours, and my ex ran up a lot of debt in both our names and is now living in another country,” she said.
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She set up a college fund for her youngest daughter, 17. There is currently enough money in the account for her daughter to pay a lot toward tuition for a two-year community college, especially when they account for the scholarships and grants her daughter will receive.
Her daughter has been applying to four-year universities, knowing that she will have to work while going to college, and she’s planning to also take out student loans.
Once her daughter hears back from the schools she’s applied to, she’ll be able to make a choice on whether she wants to go to community college or a four-year university.
“The other shoe dropped after my older daughter’s landlord found out that they were having her boyfriend’s brother and girlfriend living in their one-bedroom in exchange for them helping with rent, and they got evicted,” she explained.
Her daughter acknowledged that it was a mistake to do this behind their landlord’s back.
Also, her daughter’s boyfriend received a job offer a state away from where they currently live, and if he accepted the job, their family would have to move away from all of the loved ones they rely on for help.
Her daughter and her boyfriend reached out to her, asking if she could give them some money so that they could get on their feet and not have to worry about moving.
“I was torn, but seeing my grandkids, I knew my duty was to care for the most vulnerable in the family,” she shared.
“So, I will be making calls to liquidate my daughter’s college fund, saying yes to understanding the penalties, and I told my daughter this.”
“She got very cold and said, ‘You always brag about having a good memory. I hope you remember this moment, then.”
Since she told her youngest daughter she would be liquidating her college fund and giving all of the money to her oldest daughter, her youngest daughter has not talked to her.
On Thanksgiving, her daughter talked with some family friends and asked if they knew if hospitals were open to hiring college students to work in the kitchen or at the reception desk.
She also noticed that her daughter has been making social media posts, saying that she is hoping one day she will appreciate that she chose to study something specialized so that she will always have plenty of job opportunities.
Do you think she was wrong to liquidate her youngest daughter’s college fund?
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