She Decided To Leave Her Husband Alone On Christmas To Visit Her Kids Because He Doesn’t Want To Go And Has Ditched Her Family On The Holidays To See His Own For The Past Few Years Anyway
In 2020, this woman married her husband after dating him for four years. They are in their 50s and have both been married once before.
Her husband has a son, 21, who’s currently in college, and she has three children who are all adults and live on the other side of the country.
For Christmas in 2020, everyone stayed home and celebrated on their own due to the pandemic. In 2021, her children were going to visit for Christmas.
She planned to have everyone in both her and her husband’s immediate families over to their house for Christmas dinner.
Her children, her husband, his son, his two brothers, both of whom are single, and his niece would all be in attendance.
She let her husband know about the plan a month beforehand, and she planned out the food she’d be cooking.
“Christmas Day came, and my husband told me he and his son were leaving to go to his brother’s house for ‘his’ family’s Christmas dinner and would be back later. He ditched me, my kids, and my dinner. Just me and mine. Embarrassing, to say the least,” she said.
Understandably, it was incredibly hurtful to feel unappreciated and ignored on Christmas.
Her husband acted like he had no other choice but to go see his brother rather than spend time with her and her family.
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Leading up to Christmas in 2022, she told her husband that she wouldn’t be inviting his brothers because she thought that they were impolite.
Once again, her children were going to come to visit for the holidays.
The day before Christmas, her husband asked her what time she was going to serve Christmas dinner, and when she told him, he explained that he was not going to be there because, like the year before, he and his son would be spending Christmas at his brother’s house.
Her children have asked her why it seems like her husband doesn’t want to spend time with them, and she has no idea what to say in response.
Over the years, she has attempted to plan other family gatherings, making sure to include her husband and his son, but her husband refuses to attend.
This year, her children can’t come visit her, but her oldest son and his wife invited her and her husband to come visit them for Christmas, which is 1,000 miles away.
“My husband said he didn’t want to not be home for his son. He said to me, ‘You just saw your kids in September.’ Like that is good enough for me to not see my kids for Christmas,” she explained.
After her husband said he didn’t want to go with her, she decided to buy plane tickets for herself so that she could visit her son this Christmas, and she hasn’t told her husband about her holiday plans yet.
While she believes her husband can be caring, she also describes him as “clueless.”
When they started living together, he moved into her house because she didn’t want to move to the area of the town he was living in at the time.
They have their own bank accounts, and they’ve both financially contributed to materials to renovate the house.
She is the breadwinner and earns a pretty comfortable living.
Her husband is still working as well, but as he gets older, technological skills are becoming more necessary on the job, and he struggles to stay tech-savvy.
“To add insult to injury, he is super religious and refuses to come to my gay son’s wedding next year due to religious reasons. He is nice to him when he is visiting, though. We have tried discussing all these issues, and it has ended in anger on both sides. We both say things we regret, but one thing he said in anger stays with me: ‘This isn’t The Brady Bunch,'” she shared.
This was painful for her to hear, and she has debated filing for divorce many times, but she’s still undecided on whether she’ll go through with it.
She acknowledged that the process of divorce is difficult in so many ways, and she wished that they would have moved in together but not gotten married. In her opinion, it would have made her situation much easier.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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