She Didn’t Sign Her Marriage License At Her Wedding After Her Husband Tried To Trick Her Into Changing Her Last Name, And A Month Later, She Wants To Leave Him
This 28-year-old woman married her 28-year-old husband, Fred, just one month ago. For the last six years, she truly thought that she and Fred agreed on what they wanted in life.
They both talked about children, which they do not want to ever have, and they both discussed her not changing her last name when they tied the knot.
She couldn’t have made it more clear to Fred that she would not be taking his last name after getting married, and Fred did accept this.
“I am an only child, while Fred has 3 brothers,” she explained. “My last name dies with me, while his family’s last name will “continue on” with his 3 brothers, who are all married with children, and with this all considered and points made on these facts, I believed there wasn’t an issue because Fred agreed to it.”
She thinks changing your last name to your husband’s last name is an outdated and terrible tradition.
She thinks it’s like transferring property to your husband instead of forming a partnership with your husband.
Another thing she has a problem with is having to go through all of the painstaking work to change your documents and identification just to take on a different last name.
“And even though I’m never having children, even the thought of someone else’s last name being attached to my hypothetical child’s if I do all 9 months of creating it and wrecking my body just doesn’t sit right with me,” she added.
So, she really has a list of reasons as to why she was never going to change her last name to Fred’s.
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On the day of their wedding, Fred really wanted to have a ceremony with all of their loved ones present so they could sign their marriage license in front of their guests.
Fred was the first one to sign their marriage license, and when she picked up the pen to sign, she realized Fred was holding his hand in a strange way across the piece of paper.
“I told him to move his hand, we had an awkward, quiet battle about it, and when he finally did, I saw what he was hiding,” she said.
“It was his job to fill out all the forms for the license since he offered to do that for me, so I had “one less thing to worry about,” and he went behind my back and purposely filled it out so I would be taking his last name.”
When she and Fred were at the office to apply for their marriage paperwork, she was so exhausted and stressed out that she was not paying attention to what Fred wrote down.
She also trusted Fred completely, and it never occurred to her that he would do what he did, and she didn’t think she had to check his work either.
Not wanting to make a scene in front of their family and friends, she simply pretended to sign their marriage license, but the rest of their wedding night was destroyed for her after Fred tried to trick her into taking his last name.
She thought Fred respected her and was on the same page as her, but clearly it wasn’t. She felt like her world was crumbling underneath her feet on what was supposed to have been the happiest day of her life.
It has been a month since their wedding, and Fred has changed into someone new, and not in a good way.
“He’s all about tradition now and how it’s his right to have a wife with his last name, how it’s embarrassing that his brother’s wives didn’t make this an issue for them, and how all his friends will give him [problems] if I don’t change it,” she continued.
“He keeps saying that it’s not that big of a deal and I’m ruining our future. On top of that, he keeps bringing up the child argument, saying, “We can’t both have different last names, and they should take mine.” WE SAID WE DIDN’T WANT KIDS. I know it’s technically the certificate that changes your last name, but to know this is what he’s wanted all along and that he was willing to try and pull one over on me is disgusting.”
“I feel manipulated and heartbroken, and now he’s put all the pressure on me to make a decision because time is running out on filing for our marriage certification, and he isn’t changing his mind – I feel like I’ve wasted our guests’ time, our and our families money for the wedding, and now our future together because I let him fool me for 6 years and I never saw this happening to me. I feel like I’ve wasted my life, and I’m backed into a corner with someone I don’t even recognize anymore.”
Do you think she should divorce Fred?
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