Bre Avery Zacharski
His wife also pointed out that he’s kind of like her other child she has to care for instead of a partner, and that’s a main reason she would like to get divorced.
She doesn’t like cleaning up after him, and he says he does clean up, however, it’s never up to her standards.
He admits that he’s not good at cooking, decorating, or any kind of handiwork needed in their home, but he does his best to make up for what he lacks by doing laundry, dishes, and getting the kids tucked into bed.
He also wakes up in the middle of the night to feed their baby and makes himself available any time his wife needs a little break from the kids.
“She says the things I do are not helpful enough,” he said. “She also knows that I’m already at my limit as far as what I can do to help out, and she’s at hers. My 100% is not good enough. I don’t disagree with her on any of these things.”
“Continuing on this way is unacceptable to her, she’s unhappy, and she’s going to be a moody mom to the kids all the time. When she looks at me, she gets [angry]. She also feels that it’s not fair that I get to go to work and not have to be around kids for 40 hours a week and do my hobby on my lunch break.”
He has made an effort to clean more in their house or step up to the plate in other ways or try to take the lead on major decisions in their family, but he can’t ever keep it all up.
He also doesn’t feel the need to accommodate any changes in their life because he’s happy with exactly the way things are for them.
Sometimes he doesn’t feel happy, and sometimes his wife makes him feel like he’s walking around on eggshells, but he told his wife last night that he’s still in love with her and does not want to get divorced or separate.
“I asked if she still loves me, and she said she doesn’t know,” he continued. “I’m feeling a mixture of sadness, anger, disbelief, and tiredness.”
“I thought of trying to pick up another job to make more money so she doesn’t have to work, but then she wouldn’t be able to further her career, which would be necessary to send our kids to a nicer school and move to a bigger place. Marriage counseling is another option that I’m willing to try.”
