Chip Chick
“She tells me I am hateful, disrespectful, and ungrateful. She said that I never loved him, and she asked me if I had just lost a son. As if I did not just lose my partner and the father to our kids.”
Obviously, the entire family’s pain is extremely raw, and she understands that everyone copes with grief in different ways. However, she felt that her mother-in-law’s harsh words went way too far.
“I told her that she was welcome to have her own services, but she was not wanted or welcome to attend the services I arranged,” she explained.
The service she planned is a memorial service to celebrate her husband’s life, and he will be cremated.
“His final viewing was today, which my mother-in-law was aware of. She said she couldn’t do it, and I understood why, but she didn’t even bother to show up to the funeral home to arrange or pay for anything,” she shared.
Now, she is going over the situation in her mind as she sits in her hotel room. She told her family what happened, and her family members were horrified and furious with her mother-in-law’s behavior.
Luckily, her whole family has been a wonderful support system for her during this horrible time in her life.
Her mother and her third child (her oldest, from a previous relationship) have watched her two young children for her when she needs to be alone to cry.
While grief is already complicated and painful, she is struggling because she doesn’t want to be crying hysterically too much in front of her children.
So that she didn’t have to go to her husband’s viewing alone, her mother went with her as support.
Later, she was looking through her husband’s phone, and she saw that her mother-in-law often said horrible things about her, but her husband always came to her defense.
