Her Husband Has Been Boring Her To Tears, So She Wants To Divorce Him Because She Needs Her Life To Be More Exciting While She’s Still Young And Hot
This 34-year-old woman and her 37-year-old husband have been together for 16 years and married for nearly 14 of them. They first started dating when she was in high school, and he was in college.
Recently, they moved back to America after living abroad for quite some time. She has a wonderful career and a killer salary, and she only wants to keep climbing the corporate ladder.
Her husband’s job is decent, and he works remotely. Between the two of them, they certainly have disposable income, and since they don’t have children, it’s easy for them to enjoy being able to spend whatever they want. They’re honestly hoping they can retire sometime soon as well.
While everything appears wonderful on the outside, everything is not ok on the inside for her.
Throughout the past 6 months, give or take, she constantly thinks about how bored she is, and it begins each morning when she leaves for work.
“I’m so bored,” she explained. “I should be happy, I have a great marriage, a great job, I’m attractive and healthy, everything that I should need to be happy.”
“We don’t have a lot of independence in our relationship, and I miss so much just being ‘me.’ We do just about everything together, and I am generally the person who plans our whole life (vacations/social/drive our career moves).”
“I find myself wanting to be with someone who matches my energy for a passionate life full of excitement. He would be happy to sit at home unless I planned activities for us to do.”
Then, her husband went away for a month to spend time with his family, and that gave her the space she needed to think about how she envisions the next steps in her life.
Dmitry Tsvetkov – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She also suddenly found herself with a ton of free time, and she started doing things like any single woman would.
She went dancing, and she then met a guy whom she felt immediately attracted to. She then approached her husband about trying an open marriage, which he said yes to.
She slept with this other guy 2 times, and she still talks to him, though everything is super casual between them.
But she’s left feeling like this guy is way more exciting than her husband ever has been, and that’s leaving her wanting more.
She knows her life could be different if she found a man who shares her interests and is just more attractive to her.
“Last night, I told my husband I’m not attracted to him anymore,” she said. “This was a difficult thing to tell someone I love very much, and it felt like, for the first time, we were heading for divorce.”
“He is objectively a good-looking person, but I find his lack of ambition, his inattention to his physical appearance, and his boring conversations all add up to me not being attracted to him anymore. He is very distraught because he loves me so much.”
“He is a great partner in life, but I just feel the need to explore other people and have different experiences. I’m extroverted and find it easier to make new friends (although still a hassle in my 30s…), I try to have varied interests, and I feel like he is always adopting my friends and my hobbies like he isn’t bringing much to the table in that regard.”
She wants to be able to explore being with different guys, and maybe even a few at the same time, which is bringing her a whole lot of joy to think about.
Her husband has since said to her that he can start doing some of the activities she likes, such as going out, but she feels like he’s attempting to change who he is just to keep her.
She just wants to move on with her life and find an exciting guy or guys. Another thing is that she began dating her husband when she was incredibly young, and she wants a new opportunity to explore who she is while she’s still hot and young.
“It’s a big risk to leave such a comfortable and what many would view as an ideal situation,” she continued.
“I guess I want to hear what other people think. I can’t sleep, and I don’t have many friends I can talk to about this. We are planning on doing couples counseling.”
“I feel guilty that while this is tearing him apart, all I can think of is the next time I can go out to have new experiences or meet up with this other person I’m kind of seeing, and the idea of my marriage ending doesn’t seem to scare me.”
What do you think about her situation?
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