He Found Out That His Pregnant Fiancée Had “Weighed Him” Against Different Backup Options Before They Got Serious, So He Walked Out On Her
This 39-year-old guy first met his fiancée about six years ago, after they became colleagues. But, at the time, he was already in a relationship.
So, it was not until he broke up with his ex about four years ago that he started seeing his fiancée casually. And one year later, his fiancée asked if they could try out a serious relationship.
Since then, a lot has happened to them– both personally and as a couple. His fiancée underwent a preventative double mastectomy, and they both sold their respective houses.
Then, they moved in together, got pregnant, and he finally proposed six months ago.
“She has been telling me over the past few months that she’s so in love with me, can’t wait to start our family, and even wants more kids with me,” he explained.
“We only planned to have the one, but because she’s so happy, we were even thinking about having another kid straight after our first is born so we could start our family.”
Anyway, his fiancée started her maternity leave just last week. And they only have two more weeks until their baby is supposed to be born.
But, just a few days ago, his phone died. So, he was forced to ask his fiancée if he could borrow one of her old phones until he got a new device.
His fiancée was fine with that, too, and claimed it should be mostly empty.
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“The important thing to note here is that she actually has two of the same make [phones] but different models,” he revealed.
“So, by mistake, I grabbed the wrong one and logged in and said, ‘Oh, I thought it was blank.'”
At that point, his fiancée claimed that she must have just had a case of “baby brain.” Still, she told him that he could do whatever he wanted with the phone and delete anything that he did not need.
A short while later, he then started going through the phone and stumbled upon some conversations between his fiancée and her best friend.
The discussion had taken place shortly before he and his fiancée committed to each other. And while reading the messages, he realized that his fiancée had been confiding in her best friend and essentially “weighing her options.”
It was clear that his fiancée wanted to have kids before it was too late, so in the texts, she started talking about him as well as all of her “backup” options.
He found out that while his fiancée claimed he was the shortest and oldest guy she was seeing at the time, he was the guy with the best prospects. After all, he had the best personality, the most stable job, and many common interests.
Plus, his fiancée thought he was funny, great in bed, and good-looking even though he was not her “usual type.”
“Then, I guess we started dating. The messages stopped when she was starting to go through her mastectomies, and she got a new phone,” he said.
Regardless, after finding all of those conversations, he was completely taken aback. He actually audibly said, “What the [heck] babe,” immediately after stumbling upon the messages.
And at first, his fiancée was initially confused. But soon, she realized what phone he was holding and was absolutely mortified.
According to him, she started “spiraling” and trying to explain herself– even though much of it did not make sense.
So, he admitted how he actually just told his fiancée to stop talking before grabbing his stuff and walking out.
Afterward, he booked a bed and breakfast and has been staying there for the last couple of days. Ever since he left, though, his fiancée also has not stopped messaging, crying, and begging him to return home so they could talk through the situation.
But quite frankly, he has no idea how to face her. He really just feels used, humiliated, and as though the happiest time in his life has been a total lie.
“I keep going through the messages on the one hand and thinking of the way she’s been over the past few months on the other– telling me how much she’s in love with me, how happy she is, how she wouldn’t change the past couple of years and how much she’s looking forward to starting a family with me,” he vented.
So now, he has no clue what to do and is wondering whether he should go back and talk to his fiancée about this or wait it out until she has their baby.
What do you think offended him most about the messages? Isn’t it clear that his fiancée chose him and thought he was the best partner choice in various important categories? Might he be viewing this situation through the wrong lens or not? How would you feel?
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