Her Boyfriend Donated $130,000 To Charity After Receiving His Late Brother’s Life Insurance Payment Instead Of Using It To Pay For His Share Of Their Bills, Which She Covers Completely Alone
This woman has been with her 29-year-old boyfriend for three years now. And for the last two years of their relationship, she has paid for most of their expenses due to their income gap.
While she makes approximately $90,000 per year, her boyfriend only earns $35,000 annually. On top of his low salary, he also has medical debt and credit card debt from not earning enough money to survive.
“I pay $2,000 of our $2,600 rent and most of the food costs so he can pay off debt,” she said.
And while she did admit to feeling like her boyfriend could do better with his finances, she still cut him some slack because of his tumultuous upbringing and family. So, she tried not to nag her boyfriend– even though he never really improved in any areas.
She, on the other hand, has worked hard to fix their financial situation. She has gotten newer and better jobs to increase her salary and even works 9 to 11 hours each day. At the same time, she claims it seems as though her boyfriend is just following his passions and not worrying about making ends meet.
“He teaches kids gymnastics, which doesn’t pay well. I’m an engineer, and it feels like I’m doing all the work keeping us afloat,” she explained.
Recently, though, her boyfriend’s brother passed away. Apparently, his brother was an alcoholic who died after he got drunk and fell down the stairs.
So, this left her boyfriend with a lofty life insurance benefit. His brother’s entire policy was worth $260,000, but it was split between her boyfriend and his mother.
Still, at the end of the day, her boyfriend walked away with $130,000– which could substantially help their financial struggles.
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That’s why, after her boyfriend received the money, she had a bunch of ideas on ways to use it. For instance, she suggested that they just buy an apartment instead of paying rent and draining their savings every month. Or, she suggested her boyfriend pay off his debt or just save the money to accrue interest.
To her complete shock, though, her boyfriend didn’t want to use any of the money at all. Instead, he actually just wanted to donate it to a charity.
And while it might seem selfless of her boyfriend, she thinks it’s just really hurtful– because by donating the funds, she will just be forced to keep working harder and harder to support them both.
Not to mention, their rent just got legally increased to $2,900 per month. So, even if they sign the lease again, basically half of her salary will be going just toward their apartment.
This pushed her to try to explain her concerns to her boyfriend and underscored how they needed the money. She also pointed out how her boyfriend could just donate a portion of the money to charity.
“But he needs to take care of our finances first, just like I’ve been doing for years,” she added.
Her boyfriend just did not understand her perspective, though, and essentially accused her of being the bad guy.
In fact, he claimed that she wanted to use his brother’s “blood money” and only saw dollar signs rather than wanting to do the “right thing.”
For her, though, she thinks it’s easy for her boyfriend to only care about doing the “right thing” while she is left to handle all of the difficult things– like actually paying their bills on time.
Still, her boyfriend has not budged on his decision. So despite his brother dying nearly a year ago– and her boyfriend having the insurance money for six months– he has not helped out with their expenses whatsoever.
Instead, over the past six months, he has just kept ignoring her pleas for financial help.
Throughout this time, though, she still assumed her boyfriend had the money tucked away somewhere.
But that was until just last month– when she found a tax receipt and realized her boyfriend had donated all of the money to the American Cancer Society.
Don’t get me wrong– she knows it is a very good cause. However, at the end of the day, the donation just did not help them out at all.
So, after finding that receipt, she was beyond angry about the fact that she has been left footing the bill for their life while her boyfriend gets to feel noble.
That’s why she recently told her boyfriend that from now on, he has to start pulling his weight by paying for half of their rent and food.
“I’m no longer subsidizing him,” she vented.
They have since had numerous fights about this, though, because she has started sticking to her word.
For instance, she will only buy enough food for herself– leaving her boyfriend to arrive home and find nothing to eat.
Still, her boyfriend thinks this is all her fault and accuses her of being selfish. He also claims that since she makes more money, she should be paying for more of their living expenses.
“But he got a lot of money, so why doesn’t he pay for more things?” she asked.
“Even his mother, who wasn’t great to him, called and begged him to keep the money rather than donate it.”
Her own loved ones have chimed in on the situation, too. And she claimed that everyone in her life– from her parents to her friends– believes that her boyfriend is just a bum. Plus, they even ask her why she remains in a relationship with him.
And quite frankly, she now has no idea if she can even answer that question anymore– because, honestly, she is starting to feel used.
Still, she’s started to wonder whether insisting that her boyfriend use his brother’s insurance money to pay for their expenses rather than donate to charity actually made her “selfish” or not.
Is it fair that she has to work so hard to support both herself and her boyfriend? Is it really “selfish” that she wants her boyfriend to pull his own weight? Do you think he really is using her as a financial crutch? Would you remain in this relationship?
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