He Got His Best Friend A Super Thoughtful Birthday Present, So His Girlfriend Accused Him Of Using “Weaponized Incompetence” When Buying Gifts For Her
This young man claims that he has never been great at gift-giving. He believes giving good presents is an art– one which he cannot seem to master.
“I don’t know if I am just not as thoughtful as everyone else or what,” he admitted.
In the past, he has had only one or two moments where he spotted something in a store, realized it reminded him of a loved one, and decided to purchase the item.
Aside from those rare instances, though, he always just goes for gift cards.
“Whenever a holiday or special event approaches, it’s like my mind goes black to what the person would like,” he said.
But, just last weekend, it was his best friend’s birthday. And leading up to the celebration, he apparently had a stroke of genius.
For context, he knew that his friend was a major history buff who spent a lot of time studying and traveling the world. Plus, for the last year, his friend has been writing a dissertation– and has plans to turn it into a book one day.
He has even read over the first drafts of his friend’s dissertation too. Sometimes he looks out of sheer curiosity, and other times he helps his friend out with proofreading.
Now, though, the entire work is nearly finished. So, he decided to base his birthday gift around that.
BestForYou – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
First, he requested another manuscript copy from his best friend. Then, he had two copies professionally bound and personally penned an “about the author” section to include in the book.
Then, at the birthday party, he presented the two books to his friend– detailing how the first one was for his friend to keep as the very first copy of the finished dissertation.
“And the second was a copy for me– the very first autographed one if he would be so kind as to sign it,” he added.
Anyway, the whole display was a really sweet moment between him and his best friend. Plus, his friend even teared up while reading his “about the author” section.
And for him, that was one of the rare times when making someone cry actually made him feel so good.
His girlfriend also happened to be at the birthday party, though and saw the whole gift exchange. During the whole thing, she didn’t say much, either.
Then, his girlfriend also decided to leave the party early while he stayed back to hang out with his friend that night.
And by the time he spoke to his girlfriend the following day, it was clear she was upset. Apparently, she thought that his entire gift was overkill.
Plus, his girlfriend claimed it was proof that he had been using “weaponized incompetence” in the past to get out of putting thought and effort into the presents he purchased for her.
He was honestly shocked by his girlfriend’s response, though.
“I’m kind of at a loss,” he vented.
“I didn’t think the nice gesture was indicative of anything other than me doing something kind.”
Nonetheless, ever since he got his best friend that super sweet present, he’s been left wondering whether never getting his girlfriend such thoughtful gifts makes him a jerk.
How would you feel if your boyfriend never got you thoughtful gifts but put on that whole display at his best friend’s birthday party? Can you understand why his girlfriend was upset? Do you think he really is using “weaponized incompetence?”
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