He’s Refusing To Pay For His Stepdaughter’s Wedding Because She Doesn’t Consider Him To Be Her Father
When this man’s late wife sadly passed away, his sons were just 8 and 4-years-old. Since then, though, he has gotten remarried his current wife– who he has been with for about 11 years now.
His current wife also had a previous marriage– during which she had a daughter. So, when he and his wife tied the knot, they had three children in total– his two sons, who were 13 and 9 at the time, and his stepdaughter, who was 12.
And over the past 11 years, he claimed to have tried everything to forge a relationship with his stepdaughter. He would purchase her gifts, drive her to school, attend her extra-curricular activities, pay for her private school tuition, and try to ensure that she got everything she wanted.
“Not to mention, I worked day and night, so I could give her the lifestyle she deserved,” he explained.
“My wife is a housewife, a choice she made after she voluntarily quit her job in marketing.”
While he tried his best to treat his stepdaughter the same as his sons, though, she still continued to hate him.
Then, once his stepdaughter graduated high school about five years ago, the whole situation came to a head. At that point, his stepdaughter refused to invite him to the ceremony, despite the fact that his son invited his wife– his son’s stepmother.
In fact, his stepdaughter only opted to invite his wife. And when he asked why he couldn’t attend, she claimed he was not her father.
“You’re not my dad, you didn’t raise me, and I don’t want you in my life,” his daughter told him.
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He recalled feeling really heartbroken, especially after trying so hard to get his stepdaughter to like him.
Regardless, he wound up respecting her wishes and not attending the ceremony. Afterward, he also proceeded to pay for her college tuition– the same way he paid for his sons’ educations.
More recently, though, his stepdaughter just got engaged. And even though he only found out through his wife after she told him a few months ago, he was still really happy for his stepdaughter.
Once he learned that she would be traveling home to celebrate the engagement, he even bought a cake, balloons, and other items to surprise his stepdaughter.
But, at the last minute, she changed the plan and just told his wife to go over to her apartment. During that same conversation, his stepdaughter also told his wife to leave him and his sons behind.
Then, by the time he actually tried to congratulate his stepdaughter, she reportedly just tried to exit the conversation as quickly as she could.
And after he asked to have the honor of a father-daughter dance, his stepdaughter totally shot that idea down.
Still, he refrained from saying anything about how his stepdaughter had treated him. Well, actually, that was until he was served with the bill.
Apparently, his wife ultimately confronted him and claimed she needed some money for his stepdaughter’s wedding. And honestly, he was taken aback.
He spent a long time considering whether or not he should hand over the funds. But, he realized that his stepdaughter clearly did not consider him to be her father.
So, eventually, he just put his foot down and said he would not be paying for the wedding. He also told his wife that she had money saved up and said it was her choice whether or not she wanted to use it for her daughter’s wedding. But he definitely would not be the one covering the bill.
If you could not have guessed, though, that conversation did not go over well. His wife became furious with him and pointed out how she barely had any money saved up to put toward the wedding. Then, she wound up accusing him of being an awful person.
He has since received a ton of calls from his in-laws, claiming that he should be responsible for paying. And quite frankly, the entire thing has become a huge mess– dividing his family.
“I also want to clarify that this is going to be far from a minor financial inconvenience. While I am sufficiently wealthy, it is still not something that will be easy on my bank account,” he revealed.
“My wife’s family is Indian. Her ex-husband was Indian, and my stepdaughter is Indian. So, her wedding is going to probably have around 400 to 600 people.”
However, his wife has access to all of their shared bank accounts and could very well pay for the wedding if she wanted to. But he does not think she will without his permission. And as of right now, he has chosen to hold his ground and refuse to pay for the event.
But still, with all of his in-laws quite upset with him over this, he has been left wondering whether refusing to pay for his stepdaughter’s wedding was the wrong thing to do or not.
Do you think he could have done anything different to forge a relationship with his stepdaughter? Or did he do his best? Should he have to pay for the wedding if his stepdaughter does not view him as a part of her life? If you were in his shoes, would you refuse also?
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