A 24-year-old guy has been with his girlfriend since they were both in high school, and they are still madly in love with one another.
They live together, but now he’s ready to propose to his girlfriend pretty soon. Over the past couple of months, his mom mentioned to him that she would give him his grandma’s ring that he could use to propose to his girlfriend with.
The thing is, his mom has been promising him since he was a child that he would get his grandma’s ring when he was ready to propose, as his father’s mom passed that tradition on to his dad, and his mom wanted to keep it going.
He recently went home for the holidays, and he was thrilled to be able to pick up his grandma’s ring on his trip.
So, while he was home, his mom walked into his bedroom one day holding a jewelry box, and then she pulled out a ring he had never seen before in his life.
“I asked where it came from, and she said it was the ring that her ex-fiancé proposed to her with a few years ago (my parents have been divorced for 15 years; ex-fiancé was around for about 10 years),” he explained.
“Ex-fiancé made it clear that my sister and I were my mom’s kids and not his problem. I lived in his house for 7 years but did not speak to him, per his request. He called off their wedding about 3 years ago, but my mom kept the ring, apparently.”
“I was weirded out that she kept the ring because she hates him now, and our family is not allowed to talk about him. I feel even weirder that she offered me the ring.”
He honestly was speechless when his mom presented her old engagement ring to him, especially since it obviously doesn’t come with good memories.
Oguz – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person or ring
After collecting his thoughts, he questioned his mom about his grandma’s ring, and then his mom wanted to know which ring he was talking about.
He had no clue that his grandma had more than one ring, and then he asked his mom if she was going to give him his grandma’s ring that his dad had proposed to his mom with.
“I asked where those rings are because the ring I’m being offered feels wrong, almost taboo,” he said. “My mom said that she had both of my grandmother’s rings turned into earrings that she gave to my sister as a graduation gift. And she said I can take ex-fiancé’s ring or not; she gets it if I don’t want it.”
He was so crushed that his mom didn’t save his grandma’s ring for him. He has always considered his sister to be the favorite child, and that’s honestly why he moved across the country in the first place.
On top of that, his mom and dad never got him a graduation present, yet his mom turned around and let his sister have both of his grandma’s rings.
“Am I crazy for thinking this is weird and being upset by it?” he wondered. “It’s very nice to be offered an expensive ring to propose to my girlfriend with. I feel s***** and spoiled for complaining about it at all cause most people have to save up for years for an engagement ring. But I feel like my sister gets everything, and if I get offered something, it’s backhanded at best.”
“Anyhow, I rejected the ring at first because I was bothered. Now, I’m thinking I should ask for it and just sell it to start off buying the ring I’d like to get my girlfriend. Am I being rude to my mom if I do that? Am I just being over dramatic to be annoyed with this situation?”
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