This woman is currently engaged, and she and her fiancé are set to tie the knot in June of next year. The couple has chosen to stray from some typical wedding traditions, though, and their big day is not going to be super fancy.
This decision largely has to do with their family dynamics. More specifically, she was raised by a single mother.
So, rather than walking down the aisle with her father– as many brides do– she will be walking with her mother and sister, who is one of her bridesmaids.
Her fiancé also has a strained relationship with his father and stepmother– which impacted how they wanted to put a spin on old-time traditions.
For context, her fiancé lost his mother when he was a young boy. Then, when he was about ten years old, his father remarried his stepmother only about two years after his mother’s death.
And even though her fiancé’s stepmother has always felt like a mother to her fiancé and his three siblings, they never really felt the same way about her.
“My fiancé has told me before he often felt like she was insensitive to their loss and that he always felt as though she was entitled to be their mom without trying to acknowledge or help honor their actual mom,” she explained.
In turn, his fiancé has just tried to tolerate his stepmother’s existence. At the same time, he is not close with his father, either– who apparently does not care about the lack of relationship her fiancé and his siblings have with him.
So, her fiancé ultimately decided that his three siblings would be his “best people” rather than having traditional “groomsmen” or a “best man.” Plus, he opted to have his siblings walk him up to the altar.
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Recently, though, her fiancé’s stepmother has gotten pretty butthurt about her lack of role in the wedding. And it all began with a Facebook post.
Apparently, her own mother had posted on Facebook talking about their mother-daughter dance. More specifically, the post mentioned how her mother needed to practice.
Well, her fiancé’s stepmother ended up seeing that post and then got the idea to do a mother-son dance. After the idea was actually proposed to him, though, her fiancé totally shut it down.
“My fiancé told his stepmother that she was not his mother. So, they would not be doing one,” she recalled.
If you could not have guessed, though, her fiancé’s refusal did not go over well. Instead, the stepmother just kept being pushy and trying to change his mind.
Then, when her fiancé’s stepmother ultimately failed, she was approached to butt in. Apparently, the stepmother actually told her that she needed to convince her fiancé. And after she said no, her fiancé’s stepmother’s advances only became stronger.
She tried to be kind at first and simply explained how it was not her place to make that decision for her fiancé.
Plus, she pointed out that her stepmother might want to consider how hard it would be for her fiancé to dance with his stepmother rather than his biological mom, who obviously cannot be at his wedding.
The stepmother just did not get it, though. Instead, she was told her fiancé should feel grateful to have a “mother that is willing to fight for this.”
The real icing on the cake, though, was when her fiancé’s mother claimed she should just tell her fiancé he has to do the dance.
In fact, she was told that as her fiancé’s soon-to-be wife, she was completely entitled to make him do it.
Obviously, though, she does not want to start off her marriage that way, so she honestly just ended up telling her fiancé’s stepmother off.
“I told her that I am not my fiancé’s boss and will not be telling him what to do at our wedding– and that includes telling him to dance with her,” she said.
“I also told her I am not bullying my future husband into something he said no to, and I told her she needed to accept the no.”
For whatever reason, though, her fiancé’s stepmother just could not understand that. In fact, she actually just got accused of being a drama queen. Then, the stepmother claimed to have never said she was his boss and said that she was treating her future mother-in-law badly. Yikes.
Now, her fiancé believes that she did the right thing by deciding not to meddle. However, her fiancé’s stepmother and father have since called her rude for “reaching so much.”
Anyway, now her fiancé believes his parent’s behavior might be a sign that they deserve to be taken off the guest list. At the same time, though, she is worried that perhaps she did go too far and is not sure if she acted like a jerk toward her fiancé’s stepmother.
Why do you think her fiancé’s stepmother feels so entitled? Do you believe she did the right thing by refusing to force her fiancé into something he did not want? Wouldn’t that be a bad way to start their marriage? If you had been in her shoes, how would you have handled this situation?
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