Pretty recently, a woman got asked out by a guy on a first date. She was so thrilled about their date that she skipped out on a project she had to complete for work and started getting ready.
She purchased a brand new dress and new high heels, too, just for the occasion. She was so very excited about being “wined and dined,” so she put a ton of her money and energy into getting all dolled up for him.
She was hoping to leave an excellent impression while also serving as great company at dinner that evening.
“I didn’t ask him about whether he was paying and expected him to pay since he asked me out,” she explained.
“When the bill came, he just gave me a blank stare. I asked him if he was taking care of it, and he just said, “No.” I got visibly upset, and he started bragging about other women that wanted him, then threatened to get up and leave if I didn’t pay. I panicked about being left with the whole bill.”
He stated that they could go half and half on the bill, and after he placed his credit card down alongside hers, she started to feel a bit of relief.
Well, after the waitress came back from running their cards, she mentioned that this guy’s credit card did not work, so she ended up being charged for the entire dinner.
She’s positive this guy locked his credit card, so she would be stuck paying his way for the night.
Still trying to be kind, she didn’t say a word about it as she signed her name on the bill. In hindsight, though, she’s wondering if she can reach out to the restaurant and complain.
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“I feel as though it was not fair; he bullied me into paying for him, and I got screwed over for trying to be a good person and pay my share out of respect for the restaurant, even though it was a date HE asked me on,” she said.
“But then the restaurant charged me for BOTH meals because this guy locked his card. The guy also seemed very, very pleased with himself that he didn’t need to pay and wouldn’t leave a tip either, so I had to put down the little cash I had (20) too. It was 100 for both plus tip, and this guy refused to pay anything and bullied me into paying for him by locking his card. I’m not sure what else I could have done, and feel really bad about the whole thing. Could I have asked to only pay for myself?”
Oh, and if you were wondering if their date ended there, it didn’t. Her house is located super close to the restaurant she went out to.
She then allowed this guy to walk her home that night. When they arrived at her front door, this guy said that he really needed to use her bathroom. She let him right in.
He actually took his shoes off his feet and did his best to stay, but she was able to get him to leave as soon as he saw her 30-year-old male roommate.
If her roommate had not been home, she’s concerned that something awful might have happened to her.
“I’m kind of shocked at my naivety looking back,” she concluded.
She’s still feeling terrible about this whole disastrous first date. She was just so horrified as everything unfolded that she had no clue how to really deal.
“How do I avoid this happening again?” she wondered. “My mom said it would have been rude to ask up front if he was paying, and I wasted my time and feel terrible and traumatized. I feel really awful, and I think most girls would have complained or spoken up, but I had no idea what to do. I feel like he “won.”
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