A woman is currently pregnant, and her in-laws are absolutely thrilled about the baby she is about to welcome into the world along with her husband.
Her husband’s sisters and mom are elated at throwing her a baby shower, and 2 of her husband’s 3 sisters had baby showers back when they were pregnant, while her husband’s baby sister has not had a baby yet.
She’s noticed, though, that every time her husband’s family has thrown a baby shower, it centers on the same theme: genealogy.
All of the decorations for the baby showers are family trees, and so are the decorations they buy for the nurseries.
And when the wives of her husband’s brothers all got pregnant, her in-laws put together the same themed baby shower for those women too.
When her husband found out that his family wanted to now throw her a baby shower, he asked his family to skip the theme they always go with, as it is really uncomfortable for her.
Her husband’s family insisted that they would pick another theme, but then they went back on that, promising they had a new way to make the theme wonderful for her.
“I was an affair baby,” she explained. “My mom didn’t want me. She left me with my dad and his wife, who didn’t want me either but did keep me.”
“I spent 8 years in a house with two adults and two other kids who saw me as a painful reminder of what my dad had done and who hated me for it. Then my dad and his wife died, and I was placed in foster care while my half-siblings went to live with grandparents.”
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“I was bounced around. Aged out of foster care. Decided to track down my mom, hoping what I was told was wrong, but it wasn’t and was still very true for her. I reached out to my siblings to see if they had changed how they felt about me, but they hadn’t.”
At that point in her life, it finally hit her; she did not have a family, and she was all on her own in the world.
None of her relatives wanted her in their lives, and none of them loved her at all. It’s easy to see why the genealogy-themed baby shower is upsetting to her, as she has no happy family photos or nice stories about her family that she can share at the shower.
Everything will be entirely one-sided, as her husband is the only one with a supportive, wonderful family.
“Despite knowing all this, two of the sisters are still insisting the theme is going ahead because it’s what this family does,” she said. “I really don’t want to be surrounded by that and the sadness it brings me. I told them how uncomfortable it made me, but they dismissed it. My husband’s mom and his youngest sister are trying to get them to change it, but…”
It’s looking like her in-laws will not accommodate her wishes and change the theme. She did say to them it might be best for her to skip out on the party, and they could just have a get-together for themselves, but they accused her of being impolite, as they put a lot of work into the party.
She’s left wondering if it would be mean of her not to go to the party. Do you think so?
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