This thirty-one-year-old man is currently engaged to his fiancé and has been in the process of planning his wedding. But, two guests have been giving him some serious pushback– his parents.
According to him, dealing with his parents has always been a tall task for as long as he can remember.
Apparently, both of his parents are severely anti-social to the point where they have not left his childhood neighborhood in twelve years.
They have both worked from home as data analysts since the early 2000s and refuse to leave their house ninety-five percent of the time.
In fact, the last time they set foot outside the community lines was when he left to attend medical school in another city.
And during his childhood, his parent’s distaste for human interaction really affected his social life, too.
He was never allowed to have any friends over at his house, and his parents never attended any important events– such as parent-teacher conferences, school celebrations, or family gatherings. They always claimed the events just had “too many people.”
“They would email my teachers or have phone calls. And this would be in emergencies; they mostly emailed my teachers,” he recalled.
Thankfully, though, he did have grandparents, aunts, and uncles who loved him to pieces and were very involved in his life– despite having demanding jobs, kids, and other things in their own lives.
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These family members even showed up for his medical school graduation and his residency graduation. They also organized a festival in his neighborhood, which about four hundred people attended, to celebrate.
“If it were not for them, I would not have had a normal childhood,” he reflected.
Anyway, he has now been engaged for six months after dating his fiancé for nine years. And according to him, his parents did try to have a relationship with his fiancé at first. But, after a while, his parents claimed it was “too much for them” and simply said that as long as he was happy, they were happy.
Despite all of this, though, he still loves his parents dearly and wants them to stand alongside him as his parents during the wedding.
So, he asked if they would participate in the event planning and hoped that, for once, his parents would come around.
To his disappointment, though, his parents actually said no. They also declined to deliver a wedding speech or even just sit in the front row during the ceremony since they “don’t like to be the attention.”
And to be honest with you, he was shell-shocked regardless of his parents’ track record. He still thought that perhaps on his wedding day– arguably the most important day of his life– they would come through for him. So, when they refused, he exploded.
He told his parents that they were never a part of any of his significant life moments, never participated in any of his life events, and did not even try to get to know his fiancé.
“Then, I said, ‘Just stay at your heaven and don’t bother me anymore. Goodnight.'” he vented. For context, his parents apparently call their home “their heaven.”
Still, after telling his parents off in private, he was also forced to deal with a lot of family backlash– because two days later, he sent his guest list, which excluded his parents’ names, to his wedding organizer.
And his wedding organizer just so happened to be his cousin’s boyfriend, who, after seeing that his parents were not invited, decided to tell his cousin. Then, his cousin told all of his family and in-laws that his own parents were not welcome at the wedding.
So, ever since then, all of his parents’ siblings and their children think that he is being overdramatic and that he should just invite his parents as normal guests to make them most comfortable.
To be frank, though, he does not want his parents there unless they finally live up to their parental roles and support him on his wedding day.
Still, all of the comments from his family members have started to get to him, so he has been left wondering if not inviting his parents to the wedding unless they agree to sit in the front row as parents was the wrong thing to do.
Does it make sense why he wants his parents to participate in his wedding? Do you think he should have to settle for inviting his parents as “normal guests” or not? If you grew up in his shoes, how would you feel? What would you do to reconcile this situation?
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