This twenty-eight-year-old man and his ex-girlfriend, named Mela, were together for seven long years. And like many women, Mela was apparently totally sold on the idea of getting married.
In fact, he claims that his ex actually kind of had an unhealthy obsession with tying the knot.
“Mela literally had a Pinterest full of wedding ideas for years,” he recalled.
Then, by the time they had been dating for about four years, it became apparent that Mela was entirely ready for marriage.
She actually just began outright saying that she wanted to get married and tried telling him how she wanted to be proposed to and how they should plan their wedding.
Even though he really loved her at the time, though, he just was not sure that marriage was the route he wanted to take in life.
So, he told Mela he would have to think about the proposal– and if you could not have guessed it, she was pretty pissed.
“We had an argument, and Mela made an ultimatum– either I propose, or we break up,” he explained.
And apparently, he took too long to make a decision, so Mela ended up just breaking up with him anyway.
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In a shocking turn of events, though, the breakup actually really broke his heart. So, he actually realized he wanted Mela in his life forever, went to his mom, and asked for his mother’s old engagement ring. Then, he proposed, and Mela said yes.
His mother’s engagement ring was reportedly not really his ex’s size or style. But, at the time, the proposal and ring made her happy.
The post-proposal honeymoon phase was seemingly pretty short-lived, though, because soon afterward, he started having second thoughts about marriage again.
His hesitation then prompted another fight, which ended with Mela taking off the ring, giving it back to him, and calling off both the engagement and their relationship altogether. What a rollercoaster!
Then, after that last breakup, he and Mela finally went their separate ways. His ex went on to meet another man named Devin, who is twenty-five years old, and will be marrying him this year.
And this time around, his ex also apparently got the ring of her dreams. He claims that Devin is totally head over heels in love with Mela and dished out fifteen thousand dollars to purchase her the perfect ring.
The only issue now, though, has to do with Mela’s wedding. Apparently, throughout all of the ups and downs in his relationship with his ex, Mela and his mother remained close both during and afterward.
So, his mother is actually invited to attend Mela and Devin’s wedding– which is supposed to be a really lavish and extravagant event.
In turn, his mother recently asked for her engagement ring back since she wanted to wear it to the wedding to feel and look her best.
But shockingly, he actually refused to return his mother’s engagement ring. Primarily, he claims that the ring is now his since it was given to him, and he also believes that if Mela sees the ring, it will make her feel bad.
Understandably, though, his mother is beyond upset and cannot possibly understand why she cannot have the ring back if he is not planning on proposing to anyone anytime soon.
The rest of his family has since sided with his mother, too, and has begun calling him a total jerk and sending him nasty emails.
Finally, his father– who actually made the ring for his mother– even accused him of acting like a selfish brat.
So, with Mela’s wedding speeding around the corner, he has been left wondering if refusing to return his mother’s engagement ring was a reasonable decision or if he is acting like a total jerk.
If Mela is entirely happy marrying Devin, do you think she would actually “feel bad” if his mother wore the engagement ring to the event? Do you believe his mother’s ring is truly “his” now, even though the engagement fell through? Could there be an underlying reason why he does not want to give the ring back to his mother? If you were in his shoes, what would you do?
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