Just one year ago, this thirty-one-year-old woman was forced to undergo an emergency surgery that cost about three thousand dollars.
So, since she and her husband had both contributed money to a shared bank account over the years, they decided to pay for that hospital bill using their joint savings.
And after the surgery, it took her a whopping six months to recover. But thankfully, her healing did progress smoothly, and she was able to go back to work a few months ago.
Anyway, her husband recently started planning a vacation for him and his buddies– they are hoping to go to a sports resort in December.
And apparently, her husband brought up the cost of the trip– which is five thousand dollars– and asked her to foot the bill using her personal savings account.
She was totally taken aback and asked why the heck she should be responsible for the vacation’s cost. But then, her husband’s reasoning shocked her even more– if that was even possible.
“He brought up how much he paid for my surgery and how that money was supposed to go toward vacation savings,” she recalled.
So, she was basically left explaining the obvious to her husband. More specifically, how her surgery was a literal emergency expense paid for as partners; meanwhile, his vacation is a discretionary expense.
Still, though, her husband apparently did not understand or just simply did not care– because he went on to say the exact circumstances did not matter. According to him, all that mattered was that the “outcome was the same.”
deagreez – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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This understandably seriously upset her. I mean, her husband is comparing her surgery to some vacation– how much more insensitive could he be?
So afterward, she ended up refusing to pay for his vacation. She also made sure to remind him that their joint contributions paid for her surgery– not just his income. Well, her husband just bugged out on her after that. He started to claim she was being totally unfair and unreasonable. Plus, he even had the nerve to call her things like “manipulative” and “a thief.”
In turn, she just could not handle her husband’s attitude anymore and refused to keep discussing the vacation.
But, her husband would not let it go. In fact, he has continued calling her every name in the book– from selfish to ungrateful. And on top of that, he has even enlisted his friends to start calling her and backing him up.
“They are saying that I am ‘obligated’ to help him out, just like he helped me out before,” she said.
Aren’t partners supposed to be there for each other in sickness and in health– especially when a joint account pays for the bill? I would hardly call that “helping” her out.
Regardless, though, she has now been left in a super awkward situation. She does not want her husband and all of his friends to be pissed off at her. But, at the same time, she thinks it is entirely ridiculous for him to expect her to pay for the trip and has been left wondering if refusing to cough up the cash is the wrong thing to do.
Do you think her husband is wrong for comparing her surgery cost to a vacation expense? Does she have a right to refuse to pay? If you were in her shoes, how would you handle this situation?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.