When this thirty-two-year-old man was nineteen, his girlfriend, Cindy, got pregnant. And since they both hailed from very religious families, they were also forced to get married.
But, they were simply too young, and the marriage never worked out. So, they saved up money until they were able to afford lawyers and live on their own without their family’s support. Then, they got a divorce. And ever since then, he and Cindy have remained close friends.
“Although we are not in love, I do love Cindy. Some of it was for the sake of our child, but honestly, we don’t just tolerate each other for the sake of the kid. We are genuinely close friends,” he explained.
However, about four years ago, he fell in love with and started dating another woman. His then-girlfriend knew he was close with Cindy and met her way back when.
And even though they were never close friends, he thought Cindy and his girlfriend were friendly. For example, they would always see Cindy at any event involving his child, and Cindy was always generally invited to any outing that consisted of his high school friend group.
Plus, his girlfriend never brought up any issue with Cindy being there. So, he never thought anything of it.
But, he recently proposed to his now-fiancée this year and had to figure out all the facets of wedding planning. And in the process, he figured it would only be natural to invite Cindy to the ceremony.
After all, Cindy is the mother of his child and his genuine friend. However, his fiancée did not agree with him sending Cindy an invite at all.
“She did not say anything when I added Cindy to the guest list initially. But, she has made a lot of comments over the past week or so about how it was a bit weird to invite my ex-wife,” he recalled.
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Nonetheless, the invites had already been sent out, so he said it would be pretty difficult to uninvite Cindy at this point.
On top of that, he did not want his fiancée to think of Cindy like that. Instead, he told her to think of it as him inviting a close and strictly platonic friend to witness a very important day for him.
Anyway, he thought their conversation went pretty well and that the situation was resolved after that. But apparently, he was wrong, and his fiancée actually told his soon-to-be mother-in-law all about the situation.
So this week, he received a super long message from his future mother-in-law telling him how rude it was to invite a “past love.” Additionally, she wanted him to inform her when the invite was revoked. Yikes.
So now, he is totally confused about what to do. Most of his friends have sided with him in the situation. But, they also know, and like Cindy, so he realizes that they are biased.
In turn, he is really not sure if inviting Cindy to the wedding was a stupid and jerky thing to do or if his fiancée is totally overreacting.
Do you think he has a right to want Cindy at the wedding or not? If you were his fiancée, would you have gotten upset, too? How would you reconcile this situation?
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