A 30-year-old guy had been dating his 33-year-old girlfriend for the last 4 years, and when he began dating her, her son was just 2-years-old.
From that point on, he’s been incredibly involved in his girlfriend’s son’s life, and this boy’s biological father never stuck around, so he essentially stepped up into a dad role.
He has a very good relationship with his girlfriend’s son, and he really has enjoyed the time he spent with this boy, who is now 6.
Unfortunately, about a year ago, his relationship with his girlfriend began to suffer.
“I wasn’t happy anymore and wasn’t getting the fulfillment I desired from the relationship,” he explained.
“My GF always had something else to prioritize over me (I’m not talking about her son because I understand that), whether that was her friends or her hobbies. Despite efforts to resolve this, it didn’t work out for me.”
“I felt guilty for wanting to end the relationship, but I was still unhappy and realized that I had to make the selfish decision of breaking up to find my own happiness. I tried so hard to make it work, but if it isn’t going to work, I’m going to accept that. I by no means hate my ex; we just had different expectations from our relationship.”
So, he has since broken up with his girlfriend, and she has not really been receptive to him ending things at all.
It’s been several weeks since he ended things, and his ex has been texting and calling him on basically a daily basis.
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All of her messages are the same; they boil down to her pleading with him to take back the breakup, but he won’t. He knows no longer being with her is the right choice for him, and the messages from his ex fizzled out.
Then, his ex questioned him on if he could still be in her son’s life, as her son has been wondering where he has been, and he’s struggling with his absence.
“She said that I’m like a dad to him and that it would mean the world for him if I stayed a part of his life,” he said.
“But truth be told, I don’t want to be a part of his life anymore. He is a great kid, and I know this break-up hurts him just as much. I feel guilty about this, but I also know that I don’t want that in my life anymore. I want to enjoy my single life and build my own future, and I don’t think I want her son to be a part of it. I definitely won’t be dating women with kids anymore in the future to avoid painful situations like these.”
There’s no doubt in his mind that moving on from her is what’s best for him, but he’s curious if there’s a good way to provide “closure” for his ex and her little boy. He’s thinking it could be a good idea to see them one final time, but then another part of him believes it’s best to do and say nothing to let them move on too.
Do you think he should meet up with them or say nothing?
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