A girl in her 20s was groomed by a guy when she was just a kid. This started in middle school for her when she was 13-years-old and went on until she was 16 and in high school.
Back then, this guy was 10 years older than she was, and he completely preyed on her.
“I was depressed, had an unstable home situation, and no close friends at school,” she explained.
“At the time, I thought he was the only person who cared about me. He…gave me drugs and alcohol, told me I had to keep our relationship a secret—all the red flags you can think of that I now recognize as an adult.”
This guy was someone her parents were close to, so they didn’t see a problem with her being with him, even though she was just a kid herself.
Her mom and dad have a similar gap in age, and they didn’t expect this guy to be as predatory as he was.
Additionally, this guy was intelligent and outgoing and the kind of guy her parents never thought would take advantage of her.
Her mom and dad do not know about everything that happened between them, but she’s thinking it might be time to reveal the truth.
She found out that this guy just got married, and she’s positive that his new wife has no idea about what happened.
olly – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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She really would like to reach out to his wife to explain the situation, but she’s concerned that this will come back to haunt her, and she’s spent years attempting to leave her past behind her.
She isn’t sure if this guy has changed, but if he hasn’t, she thinks his wife has a right to know about his actions.
She’s weighing out if she should tell his wife or go straight to the police. She’s also considering reaching out to him directly to speak to him and see for herself if he is different now.
“My gut tells me that she deserves to know, but the other part of me still feels vulnerable to what he could do and scared of how this can alter my life again,” she added. “I would’ve worked so hard to bury all of this, only to cause myself pain a second time by revealing it.”
It makes her sick to her stomach to choose a path here, and she isn’t sure what’s right for her to go with. If she does expose this guy, her parents will find out, and they finally have a wonderful relationship that could be at risk if the truth comes out.
“I don’t want this to blow up since he will know it’s me, but I also don’t want her to be with someone capable of the things he did,” she continued.
“Maybe he has changed, maybe he hopes I will never speak up; I really don’t know. I feel so uneasy and nauseous about the whole thing. Should I just move on? I’ve stayed quiet for years, so I don’t know why their marriage is bringing back these unpleasant feelings.”
Do you think she should say something, and if so, who should she go to first?
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