Earlier this year, a young woman turned 21-years-old. But, she feels like the day was completely overshadowed by her niece, who has the same birthday.
It all began when her sister, who lives across the country, came into town a few days before the big day.
And even though she had already planned out all of her birthday celebrations– including a morning walk at the lake with family, an afternoon date with her boyfriend, and a dinner party with family– her sister tried to railroad her plans.
Instead, the sister wanted to do a family celebration with totally different plans. So, rather than going out and about, she would be stuck at a garden party for the entire day and then end her birthday with a family dinner at home.
Then, when she tried to air her upset with the change of plans, her mom simply dismissed her.
“She told me I’d had twenty birthdays, and this was her granddaughter’s first birthday; lots of people share birthdays, etc. And their main argument was that we should all spend the day together, and my plans were not kid-friendly,” she recalled.
So, she conceded and told her family they could go about their plans– but she would not be in attendance.
Her boyfriend had already organized a romantic afternoon for her, and she did not want to cancel last minute.
This was not good enough for her mother, though, who got seriously angry.
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The mother even told her to “grow up” and that if she wanted to do anything on her birthday, she would have to figure it out herself– because her family car privileges were revoked.
Thankfully, her dad did step in and defend her– saying that she could use the car and that he would even accompany her on the morning walk and pay for her dinner party.
Still, though, over the next few days before her birthday, she noticed her mother and sister being really passive-aggressive.
For example, whenever she would interact with her niece, they would try to guilt her into sharing the day by saying things like, “See, look how much she likes you. Why wouldn’t you want to celebrate your birthdays together?”
And after a while, she understandably got really peeved. So, she began avoiding her sister– and subsequently her niece, who is always attached to her sister’s hip.
Then, even on her birthday, the drama did not calm down. She apparently woke up to take her lakeside walk with her brother and father.
But, after they returned, her mom threw yet another fit and accused them of ruining plans.
“I got annoyed since the first thing my mom did on my birthday was lecture me. So, I told her if she did not stop, I would leave, and she could spend her whole day with my niece without us ruining her plans,” she explained.
But, when her mom claimed she was bluffing, she decided to disinvite her mom from her birthday dinner altogether and told her not to show up.
Then, she left her house and spent the afternoon with her boyfriend before going to dinner with her dad, brother, boyfriend, and a few close friends.
She had a fantastic time, too, and eventually returned home later that evening.
Nonetheless, once she went on social media late that night, she realized her mom had posted photos from the garden party alongside a pretty snarky caption.
“Thank you to all who love and care about [niece] and for showing up today, and for a day free from negativity and selfishness,” the mom wrote.
So now, she is convinced that the caption was directed toward her. Moreover, it has now made her wonder if refusing to share her birthday with her niece was a selfish thing to do.
Do you think she should feel guilty about wanting to celebrate her twenty-first birthday on her own? If you were in her shoes, what would you have done?
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