8 years ago, a woman’s childhood best friend ghosted her out of nowhere. Back then, her best friend was 30-years-old, and her best friend gave her no reason for why she cut her right out of her life.
Looking back on the situation, she can’t nail down a valid explanation for why her best friend decided to go through with this.
They never got into an argument or had something negative happen to lead her best friend to no longer want her to be in her life anymore.
After her best friend went radio silent, she did send her a handful of text messages pleading with her to let her know what had gone wrong and what she could do to fix it.
Despite her attempts to reach out to her best friend, her best friend still refused to speak to her ever again.
“It was traumatic and painful, and I was hurt and sad and angry,” she explained.
“It took several years, but I eventually was able to make peace with the situation. I’m no longer resentful with or angry, but I have no desire to interact with her ever again.”
She does have a second friend from her childhood who has managed to remain close with her best friend, and even though she questioned this friend as to why her best friend dropped her, this other friend had no clue.
She could never tell if this friend was telling the truth about not knowing why her best friend ghosted her, but she felt bad doing anything to jeopardize that existing friendship, so she backed off.
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Several days ago, this mutual friend that she still has informed her that her ex-best friend’s husband unexpectedly passed away.
She had not ever met her former best friend’s husband, as they began dating after she was out of the picture.
Her mutual friend told her that this man was wonderful, and her former best friend is crushed that he had passed away.
Although she does honestly feel terrible even though she’s no longer in her former best friend’s life, she’s going to do nothing to show her sympathy.
“I thought about sending some flowers or something as a small olive branch (not in an attempt to rekindle the friendship, just to offer my condolences) but then decided against it because I figured that hearing from me, a person she obviously doesn’t want in her life, may make her feel worse while she’s already grieving,” she said.
Yesterday, her mutual friend sent her a text to plan on being at the funeral, and she was astonished this woman thought she should attend.
She sent her mutual friend a text saying she was not going at all, and her friend freaked out on her.
Her mutual friend accused her of being self-absorbed and spiteful, but that’s not where she is actually coming from at all here.
She let her mutual friend know that because she had not heard a single word from her former best friend, she didn’t think it was right to drop in at the funeral after 8 years without seeing her.
She then said she would think about if she should send flowers along with her condolences, but she’s concerned that this will just serve to upset her former best friend further.
Her mutual friend kept hitting her with insults, telling her she shouldn’t assume things and that she’s cowardly.
Since this mutual friend isn’t such an important part of her life, she’s going to be fine if this friend decides to ghost her too, but she’s still left grappling with an important question; is it wrong of her to not want to go to the funeral?
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