This woman is getting married in September, and even though she always dreamed of having a very small and intimate wedding with friends and family, her fiancé’s family wanted the complete opposite.
In fact, they wanted to host a three-day carnival.
“This is a war that I have lost: we are having the three-day carnival. And no, he is not Indian,” she said.
And throughout the wedding planning, some serious boundaries had to be drawn. At one point, the literal battles pushed her future mother-in-law to even disqualify herself from all of the wedding planning.
All of that drama has since died down, though– thankfully– but a new pressure point has arisen. And this time, it is about the rehearsal dinner.
Her mother-in-law has decided to take the reigns in orchestrating the rehearsal dinner, which she believes is fair given that her mother-in-law did not participate in much of the other planning.
Nonetheless, the pair have been running into a massive problem about precisely who they are inviting to the rehearsal dinner.
Since her wedding is going to be a colossal three-day event, she was hoping that the rehearsal dinner could be more intimate– and she expressed this to her mother-in-law.
“I kindly mentioned several times that, on my side, my family and I would like only the bridal party and our family members to come,” she recalled.
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Her mother-in-law, though, thinks it would be rude not to invite all of the guests who are traveling in from out of town. So, the mother-in-law has been pressing her about her decision not to invite everyone– and it has seriously been getting on her nerves.
“She pushes again and again. ‘Why is that?’ Like, why do you care?” she said in a huff.
Then, her mother-in-law claimed it would be “tacky and rude” to only invite a select group of people. And afterward, the mother-in-law had the nerve to call her unappreciative– even though she and her husband, her parents, and her in-laws are all splitting the cost.
Now, they are on day three of this argument, and her mother-in-law has shown no signs of quitting.
“It has become World War III. I did not want this big wedding anyway. And to me, family is on a whole other level of importance that should be treated as such– so I wanted the rehearsal dinner to be a time set aside that I can be more intimate with just family,” she explained.
Despite this very understandable preference, though, her mother-in-law refuses to wrap her head around it.
So, she has been left wondering if telling her mother-in-law she does not want all of her guests there was somehow a “rude” and “unappreciative” thing to do.
Do you think wanting a small rehearsal dinner is a reasonable request? Is it the mother-in-law’s place to dictate who should be invited? How would you navigate this sticky situation?
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