A 23-year-old girl has been dating a guy 10 years older than her for more than 1 year, but her mom doesn't know that they're together. Initially, she was concerned about dating him because of how much older than her he is, and she also was a bit worried about him already having a child. Despite her concerns, she ended up in a relationship with him, and she originally met him where she goes to college. Her college is located 6 hours from her hometown, so she's easily been able to keep the fact that she's seeing this guy from her mom and dad, though she has mentioned to her mom that they are friends. "I never eventually told her it became more than that since I was unsure of where the relationship would go, and held off on telling her because of what I'm about to say," she explained. "My mom hates this guy. She only met him once when my family came up to help me with my apartment, they maybe talked for two minutes. She hates the friendship and doesn't ever want me in a relationship with him." "She says "I'm not dumb enough to pursue him." None of this she has ever said to my face. These are conversations I heard her having with her friends." The reason her mom mostly hates the guy she's dating is because he grew up quite different than she did. She's from the upper part of the middle class, and in contrast, her boyfriend grew up in foster care and could not come up with enough money to go to college for more than 1 semester. [caption id="attachment_207518" align="alignnone" width="620"] DragonImages - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purpose only, not the actual person[/caption] Sign up for Chip Chick's newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox. "He does not have the privileged life that I do," she said. "But, he is a smart person and he has his ambitions." Her mom knows all about how he grew up, and she will say mean things about that. Her mom really looks down on him and even accuses him of basically being a loser. Her boyfriend works very hard at his job, and he drives a school bus. He adores what he does, and she doesn't see why her mom has to be so negative about that. "He is great at it, he gets compliments from kids and their families all the time," she continued. "Sure the money isn't amazing, he practically lives paycheck to paycheck, but it's not like he's jobless and relies on everyone else." "He has a strong work ethic. It's just very difficult without a degree to get anywhere, and like I said, he didn't have the support to get through college like I do." "Without my parents I know I couldn't get through college. She just thinks he's this low-life person and that I'm better off without him." She really is in love with her boyfriend, and he's a wonderful guy, but she's not sure how to clue her mom in that she's in a relationship with him. Her boyfriend has brought up the topic of getting married, which she is not quite ready for, but that just goes to show how serious things are with them. In a month, her boyfriend has expressed interest in coming to see her hometown and spend time with her family, but she's struggling with how to tell him that her mom absolutely hates him already without knowing they're together. Do you think there's a way for her to get her mom on board with her relationship, and do you think she should tell her boyfriend how her mom feels about him? You can read the original post on Reddit here. If true crime defines your free time, this is for you: join Chip Chick’s True Crime Tribe.
