A 26-year-old man has been in a relationship with his 25-year-old girlfriend for a year, and one of the things about her that bothers him the most is that he thinks she goes to the doctor too much.
His girlfriend goes to the doctor at least once or twice each month.
“She claims that she’s having lots of health issues (hypotension, chronic migraines, a minor heart condition),” he explained.
“They all seem like minor issues (except her migraines) and I feel like she’s causing more harm than good by pumping her body full of pills.”
Recently, his girlfriend got stomach ulcers from all the medications that she is taking. Then she had a severe allergic reaction to the antibiotics that she is also on.
The reaction that his girlfriend had to the antibiotics was so terrible, she wound up with a high fever and she was very confused too.
“The next morning I decided to talk to her about her frequent trips to the doctor,” he said. “I told her that taking too much medication might compromise her health further.”
“That I haven’t met someone else that frequents the doctor as much as she does. And I also bought up the fact that health care is expensive… and asked her how she’s planning on sustaining her lifestyle.”
Well, his girlfriend isn’t concerned about the cost of getting so much medical attention because her parents are helping her pay for things. She also does have insurance that covers a lot.
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His girlfriend did tell him that he cannot look at other people that he knows and use them as a comparison to her health.
“But I still feel like she’s compromising her health further….especially given her stomach ulcers,” he continued.
“I reminded her that she’s still young, and if she causes damage to her body now it might cause more issues in the future.”
His girlfriend got mad at him for trying to tell her what to do with her body before insisting that she is aware of all the side effects that come with the medication she takes and that isn’t a concern for her.
His girlfriend then left their place to go to her parent’s house and she has refused to say a single word to him since then.
“I reached out to her parents to ask if she’s okay,” he revealed. “They say I was out of line, and that she’s dealing with a lot at the time.”
“She’s still recovering from her allergic reaction and they reminded me that illness is something that she’s been dealing with for ages.”
His girlfriend is still refusing to answer any of his calls or texts, so he’s wondering if he really was out of line in telling her that she sees the doctor too much.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“I was born with a heart condition, I go to the cardiologist every two years to get it checked, if she is getting her heart checked monthly then it’s not minor. That being said if it were major she would be seeing a cardiologist.”
“Sustaining your lifestyle” as though his GF just decided one day to pay money to the doctor as a hobby lol.”
“My sister went to the doctors for 3 years in considerable pain and the (male) GP accused her of being addicted to the pain medication they were prescribing while they barely looked into the cause – eventually she was rushed to the hospital where, surprise!”
“It was stage 4 cancer the whole time! Luckily she got onto a trial for immunotherapy and it’s really helping her – her cancer is looking like it might be dormant now, 3 years later! – but before the trial, even with chemo, her life expectancy was only months by the time they found it.”
“Your girlfriend is doing what she needs to.”
“She’s not sick because she’s going to the doctor a lot. She’s going to the doctor a lot because she’s sick. Capiche?”
“She doesn’t need your unqualified advice or judgment on top of the health issues she’s dealing with.”
“You’re not a doctor. She is an adult who can manage her own health.”
“I know this is coming from a place of caring but as someone who has a lot of health issues, it’s not helpful when your support system tells you you’re doing wrong.”
“You’re not a doctor, you’re not her, she knows her body better than you do, and considering she has a heart condition, chronic migraines, and hypotension, I would not consider those “minor” health concerns.”
“Her doctor is prescribing her those medications because the benefits outweigh the risks. She shouldn’t have to stick out chronic illness cause you think it’s “too expensive”. A for-profit healthcare system is to blame here, not her.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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