A twenty-four-year-old man was so excited to propose to his girlfriend of five years. That was until his mother-in-law completely ruined the surprise. Now, the man wants his mother-in-law nowhere near the engagement party.
“I had bought the ring and basically took it on a tour to show her friends and my friends in order to get their approval. I then asked her dad for his blessing and her mom too,” the man started.
The two love birds met in college years ago. His girlfriend had always loved the idea of her family and friends being present when she got engaged.
The man loved the idea too and made an effort to involve her friends and family just like she had hoped.
“Since about June of this year, I have been getting her used to having those people around. That way, when I finally pop the question, she won’t be suspicious,” the man explained.
But, his mother-in-law had different plans. Earlier this week, the man got a heartbreaking call from his girlfriend– she knew all about his proposal plans.
Apparently, his mother-in-law called his girlfriend to say that she had seen the ring and that the man was going to propose on Thanksgiving.
She even told the girlfriend that she should dress nicely.
“I told her that her mom was lying, but she didn’t believe me,” the man said, “That was my original plan, but it got ruined.”
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The Thanksgiving holiday came and went, but nothing happened. The man really wanted the proposal to be a surprise, so he held off.
But, his girlfriend ended up very upset since she was expecting the proposal to finally happen. So, the man ended up calling his mother-in-law to give her a piece of his mind for meddling in his plans.
“I told her mom that she would no longer be notified when I propose because she clearly cannot keep a secret and ruined it,” the man recalled, “Then, her mom said I was selfish to keep her away from the party and that I better think twice before doing that.”
The man could not care less about his mother-in-law’s opinion and told her to mind her business. Instead of doing that, the mother-in-law again became involved and called his girlfriend to tattle on him.
His girlfriend did get angry with him again, too. Finally, though, the man sat his girlfriend down to have an honest discussion.
“I eventually told her straight-up what happened. I told her I wanted it to be a surprise, and she even agreed that she would rather me do it unexpectedly,” the man said. Apparently, the man’s girlfriend was shocked that her mom would even do such a thing while knowing how much she loves surprises.
“She then called her mom and told her off too. Her mom apologized to me but still feels like she had the right to say something about it,” the man said.
The tension has not resolved even after that empty apology, though. Now, the girlfriend does not want her mother around for the engagement party either.
“She doesn’t like her mom’s sense of entitlement. Her mom now thinks that I have brainwashed her daughter,” the man said.
In trying to prepare a romantic and thoughtful surprise, this man unknowingly walked into a whole mess.
He now plans to propose on New Year’s Eve while the ball drops but can’t stop wondering if he was in the wrong for how he treated his mother-in-law.
How would you have reacted in this situation? Did the mother-in-law have any right to get involved?
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