A 24-year-old woman recently went out on a date with a 25-year-old man for the very first time. She met this guy on a dating website.
The guy is a college student, and he lives with his parents.
“We decided to meet for a dinner date and picked out a retro bar,” she explained. “We started with drinks and as soon as he saw the price, he told me that found everything a bit pricy.”
As soon as he said this, she said that she was happy to leave and go somewhere else.
She also gave him some more suggestions; she offered to pay for half of everything, and then she even offered to pay for everything for the two of them.
What’s weird though is that he was the one who picked out the place for their first date, and he was the one that made the reservation, so you think he would have researched beforehand the price of things if that was some kind of major concern for him.
“He said he’d feel bad making me pay so he just got water while I got something to drink ( I was thinking that I’d pay my share anyway so I ordered nice drinks) and for food, I told him I felt like eating only nachos and he said it costs more and told me if I really want to get guac which is additional $$,” she said.
She just stared at him right in the eyes and told him she really wanted to order and eat without any kind of judgment from him.
She then pointed out to him that she was not under the impression he was going to pay for her at all, so he really didn’t have a right to be trying to control what she was ordering.
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She then got up and walked out, leaving him there in the middle of the date.
“He later messaged me asking me to apologize for leaving him there,” she concluded. She’s wondering if it was bad of her to have left him like that.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“So… to be clear. He chose the restaurant and then spent the date complaining about the restaurant and being controlling before then asking for an apology because you got fed up? Dodged a bullet. He wasn’t ready for this date or to date for that matter.”
“I’d really like to see the thought process he went through to arrive at this conclusion. Seriously, if you’re on a tight budget, either suggest going Dutch or maybe try a coffee date or something like that first.”
“But choosing the restaurant and then trying to haggle over whether or not she gets guacamole on her nachos is just dumb.”
“He’s being judgmental of the price of what you’re ordering when he’s not paying.”
“I would understand if it was a case where you were ordering $100+ worth of food while he’s not ordering nearly as much but he was paying for the whole date, but this wasn’t even that. He suffers no consequences here.”
“He was just being judgmental with no reason to be judgmental. And to text you wanting you to apologize? The audacity. He should be apologizing.”
” You gave the option of going somewhere else, he said no. You said you’d pay for both of y’all to eat and he said no, then he got upset you ordered the food you’re going to eat and pay for.”
“You also said he is the one who made the reservations, he should have chosen a place he could afford.”
“You gave him so many options and he chose to stay there at the “expensive restaurant” and try to pay for everything. The one who needs to apologize is him for a sucky date.”
“You just met this guy and he was acting this way? I get being uncomfortable if a place is more expensive than you expected but, he was a total jerk about it.”
“You offered to go somewhere else! He just kept making the situation worse to the point where you didn’t want to be around a literal stranger.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.