A 21-year-old man has an older sister that is 29, May, and a 21-year-old girlfriend, Elly, who thinks that the relationship he has with his sister May is way too weird.
He and May had an awful childhood, and they were all that they had back then. That made them grow extraordinarily close, and they have always had a very affectionate relationship.
Neither he nor May has a problem with their affectionate ways, and he’s not sure if it’s completely normal, but it’s how they grew up.
Several weeks ago, May moved into the place he shares with his girlfriend Elly after May went through a terrible breakup.
Elly was not thrilled that May was moving in, but he figured that was because Elly would feel like they wouldn’t have any alone time.
Well, last weekend, things went completely south. Elly left home to head to a party with her friends, and she was gone for all of Saturday night.
“May and I ended up cuddling and watching some movies,” he explained. “We ended up falling asleep together in my (and Elly’s) bed.”
“For us, this is normal and completely non-sexual. We are not into each other, we just enjoy being around each other and she found it comforting given everything that was happening to her.”
“When Elly got home and saw us, she got pretty mad. She decided to wait for my sister to leave for work before talking to me, though.”
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“Elly thinks it’s completely inappropriate for us to sleep together. She feels like we act more like partners than siblings.”
He does agree that it is very likely that he does not understand what boundaries look like. He then added that he and May hug and kiss frequently (though they never kiss each other on the lips) and they will lay on each other’s laps and pet each other’s hair or faces.
Elly is not only bothered by all of these physical things; she also thinks that he and May are too affectionate when it comes to how they speak to each other as well.
“She said she understood May is going through a hard time, and we couldn’t have a normal relationship growing up, but she just can’t ignore it,” he said.
“Apparently she’s always found our relationship weird, but since we didn’t live with May and it wasn’t constant, Elly just pretended she didn’t find it weird.”
He did speak to May about how they should tone down their affection to make Elly feel more comfortable, but May was not happy about that.
May is upset that Elly believes their relationship is weird. May considers Elly controlling, and she is not going to change how she interacts with him to make Elly feel comfortable.
May did try to talk to Elly on her own, but that didn’t go well and it ended up being a fight.
Elly still maintains that the relationship he has will May is weird and wrong.
“Personally, I feel May is right,” he continued. “But I’m not in a position to see clearly. I don’t want to hurt either of them but it doesn’t seem there will be a compromise.”
He is left wondering if Elly or May is right here, and he’s also wondering if the relationship he has with May really is weird.
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