Meeting your sibling’s partners can be stressful. Of course, everyone wants their sibling to be with a person who is good for them.
Plus, you want their partner to like you, too. But, that interaction can become very awkward if someone already has a preconceived notion about you.
That is what happened to this twenty-six-year-old woman after meeting her brother’s girlfriend. Apparently, the girlfriend believes that the woman bullied her in high school.
“My brother Jack is dating Jess. I met her in the summer, and she said we’d gone to high school together. She seemed upset that I didn’t remember her, so I apologized, and she said it was fine. But, then, she walked away,” the woman explained.
She genuinely did not remember Jess and even asked her fiancé and an old friend– who both went to high school with her– if they knew Jess.
Neither of them recognized her, either. So, the woman assumed that Jess just wasn’t in her classes.
Later that night, though, the woman received a text from her brother. He said that she really upset Jess “again.”
“I was like again? He said that Jess said I used to bully her,” the woman said, “I’m not going to say I was a great person in high school. I had a lot of friends, but I was going through a lot of shit, so I could be nice but could also often be just a raging bitch.”
The woman went on to say that she never explicitly targeted or tormented anyone, though. She knows that she could be rude and sarcastic but thinks the term bully “is a bit far.”
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Her brother told the woman to text him an apology. Then, he planned to show Jess the text message himself.
But, the woman still could not remember what she did, so the apology may have come out less meaningful.
“I sent a generic apology text because I don’t know what I actually did. I could only assume I was an ass to Jess at some point,” the woman explained, “Jack called me out on it being generic and said I needed to be specific. I told him that I didn’t remember Jess, so if she wants a specific apology, she needs to tell me what I am apologizing for.”
That was when the allegations became very intense. Jess claimed that the woman stole her boyfriend, caused an eating disorder, and stopped her from going to her “dream university.”
The woman still did not understand any of these allegations and tried to explain her perspective.
“The guy Jess claims to have been dating at the time was a liar who told people we hooked up when we didn’t. As for the eating disorder, I was a bitch, but I would never encourage someone to develop an eating disorder,” the woman said.
She actually had an eating disorder herself and did not want to make anyone feel “as bad about their body when I felt like shit about mine.”
And, in regards to the exam, Jess claimed that the woman caused her to fail one test. Apparently, that one test kept her from getting accepted into her top university. The woman still cannot recall any situation involving a test.
“But, the bottom line is that she believes that I am personally responsible for all of this. Jack said that where she’s at in life now is all down to me bullying her,” the woman said.
“I actually feel like I remember less with every new piece of information she gives me because it just seems…off.”
The woman admits to possibly being in denial and needing to take a hard look in the mirror. But, she also needs to come up with a sincere apology in time for Christmas. If she doesn’t, she cannot attend her family’s celebration.
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“I haven’t seen my relatives in ages, and I’m already in isolation in preparation. Plus, my kids are really excited, so it would suck not to be able to go after all of this,” the woman explained.
“But, my dad is siding with Jack and Jess and has said that he wants a calm Christmas. So, if I don’t deal with the high school drama, I am not invited.”
The woman is perplexed and left wondering how to apologize for something she honestly doesn’t remember happening. How would you handle this apology?
Do you think that the woman should stand behind her memory or suck it up and apologize for what Jess claims happened?
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