A 32-year-old woman is in a relationship with a man the same age as her, and they’ve been dating for about a year.
“When I met him he was very clear that his last relationship has been very hard but they are still in touch,” she explained. “They almost got married but broke it off owing to some family drama.”
As for where she was in her life when they first met each other, she was in the process of moving on from an abusive relationship she had.
Her now-boyfriend at first became a very good friend to her and things evolved from there. When things did become official for them, she was well aware that he was having some feelings for his ex still.
Regardless, she really liked him and wanted to take the chance.
“Last week his ex reached out to him and wanted to meet him one last time,” she said. But what’s weird is that her boyfriend already met up with his ex twice in the past prior to her dating him so they could resolve things.
This time, her boyfriend’s ex mentioned she would like to apologize while making sure “they end it on a right note,” whatever that means.
Her boyfriend has never given her a reason not to trust him and has even been upfront with her when his ex has texted him multiple times in the past, so when he did recently insist on not having any kind of feelings for his ex, she figured he was being honest.
“I made it clear to him that I am not comfortable with him meeting her alone,” she continued. “At this, he said he will not be alone.”
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“They will be driving to a cabin for 2days where their other friends are coming too. I basically lost it there. I told him this I cannot put up with, him being in a different place for the weekend with zero contact.”
Ok, now that’s definitely weird though to drive to a cabin in the woods with your ex to have closure, even if your mutual friends are around.
The biggest red flag I see here though is that she was not invited on this trip at all.
“Frankly it’s not that I doubt him that something will happen, I am majorly concerned that the mental backlash of meeting her again will set us back to zero,” she wrote.
“He has been depressed over her and I cannot see him going back to that zone.”
“Now we are fighting and he feels maybe he rushed into the relationship and the kind of sacrifice I am asking from him, he cannot do that (context same).”
She is left wondering if she should give her boyfriend the go-ahead to head off to the cabin in the woods with his ex, or if she should continue to tell him that he cannot go.
How would you feel in this situation?
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