A 25-year-old woman was just 18-years-old and a college freshman when she met a 44-year-old man who happened to be her substitute teacher.
She flirted back and forth with him for several months, which ended with her sleeping with him. At that time, she was fully aware that her substitute teacher was married, because he was wearing a wedding ring.
Not long after that first physical encounter, she full-blown fell in love with him. She thought he was perfect, and looking back on it now, the fact that he was the only person she had ever slept with makes her feel like that just made her worship him more.
The second time she slept with him was in his vacation home he shared with his wife, and there were tons of photos of his wife and children throughout that home.
“But by then I was so in love that I believed all the lies he told me (he usually used to tell me they were about to get divorced) and I thought we had a future together, I thought he loved me,” she explained.
“But he didn’t divorce her, he lied and told me hundreds of times that he wanted to stay with his ex-wife because their kids were really young. That after a while we could be together, so I waited.”
She stuck around, waiting, for three entire years. Then, his wife’s mom accidentally walked in on them, and word spread throughout his family about his infidelity, but everyone kept it quiet.
Nobody mentioned it outside of the family.
“…I used to be his student and they didn’t want to ruin his reputation because that would hurt the kids,” she said.
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“They got divorced and we continue to have an on and off relationship for years. My family and friends never knew that I did sleep with him when he was married so I didn’t feel judged at all, I was young and really stupid.”
“I moved to another city and he followed me and bought a house here and I moved in with him for a while, and this time I was 100 percent sure that we would be happy.”
“But now my mom found out and she’s disgusted because my dad cheated on her in the past and now she hates me for what I did.”
As for how her mom discovered all of this? She wound up taking a cooking class with her substitute teacher’s former mother-in-law. What are the odds, right?
When her mom found out about everything, she turned around and let her entire family know about it.
Her family is “disgusted” with her, and her friends that found out are disgusted too. Many of her friends no longer even wish to speak to her.
This is the only time in her life that she has felt her past catching up with her, and she’s finally embarrassed.
She knows it was wrong all along, and everyone is aware of her secret now. She has no idea how to cope with her feelings because she spent 7 years not feeling like this at all.
She was living in a separate world with her substitute teacher, and everything in that world was perfect.
“His ex knows that everyone found out about what happened years ago and she texted me just to tell me that no matter how far I go, she will always be there to ruin my life like I ruined hers, that she will never let me be happy with him,” she continued.
“But at this point, how can I be happy with him when everyone hates me for our relationship? There is no future for us, and that is what hurts me the most, I lost my family, my friends, and now I will also lose him, and I will be left alone for who knows how long.”
“There will be no one for me because everyone is really busy judging me for a stupid thing I did at 18.”
When she returned to the apartment she shares with him, she had nothing to say. It’s been days, and she still can’t find the words.
She doesn’t think she can move past this and feel secure and excited to be with him anymore, especially since she feels so overwhelmingly mortified.
She desperately wants to return to that time when she was 18 before she even was introduced to her substitute teacher.
How would you feel in this situation? Would you have reacted differently?
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