A 22-year-old woman is going to be tying the knot in 3 months with her fiancé Michael, and their wedding is going to take place at the farm that Michael’s parents own.
They’re planning for it to be inexpensive, and Michael’s family is contributing the food, flowers, and decorations.
The thing is, she really doesn’t want her 21-year-old sister Anna to come to her wedding.
Anna has autism that is extremely severe, and so she uses sign language to communicate mostly, though she will talk with just their family present.
“She…has pretty bad cognitive skills,” this woman explained. “She can’t comprehend boundaries and lives with our parents so they can best watch her.”
She recently mailed out her invitations, and she specially asked Anna not to attend on the invite. She knew by not inviting Anna, her parents most likely wouldn’t come either.
As for why she does not want Anna there, well, Anna pretty much always grabs at Michael, tries to hold his hand, and attempts to kiss the guy.
In the past, Anna has also had meltdowns for not being able to sit right next to Michael.
“We’ve tried speaking to her but there’s only so much we can do when she doesn’t really understand,” she said.
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“I told my parents I just want one day for Michael to be my partner and not Anna’s comfort person. They called me selfish and asked how I expected them to agree to something like this.”
“They told me Anna is disabled and may never experience a wedding of her own and while I have Michael for probably the rest of our lives she’ll have no one and that Michael and I can be a little more understanding to the reality of her life.”
In the end, her parents decided not to attend her wedding, and they also think she should not bring Michael to their house at all in the future since she’s picking a man over her own sister.
Her mom and dad then said Anna’s behavior is “normal” for a 21-year-old and they insisted Michael should stop making it a problem.
She offered to pay for someone to watch Anna so they could come, and she also said she could live-stream the wedding, but her parents declined all offers.
Her parents then got into an argument with her about not wanting to be Anna’s full-time caregiver when they pass away.
They then texted her a super long message that laid out the fact they will no longer speak to her unless she does “the right thing.”
She does feel terrible and now she’s wondering if she should not have asked for Anna not to come to her wedding.
How would you deal with this?
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