A 28-year-old woman used to be somewhat close to her work mentor, 36-year-old Kat. Kat is about 5 years more ahead in their career paths than she is, and when she started working at the company she’s at now, Kat was a big part of her feeling comfortable there.
“We used to get lunch together whenever we could (which wasn’t often and now I know why), and she helped me a lot in the beginning when I was struggling to fit in,” she explained.
Well, she recently found out why Kat was never really around to grab lunch with her.
It turns out, Kat has been sleeping with her boss’s 52-year-old husband. Nobody really knew that was going on until someone at the office anonymously leaked intimate videos and photos of Kat with the boss’s husband.
In the videos, Kat and her boss’s husband were actively speaking badly about her boss, so that certainly made things even worse.
Every single person at the office now knows about the cheating, and her boss has decided to go on leave while she goes through her divorce.
While this has all been going on, she’s now eligible to be promoted, and she has worked her butt off to make it here.
Recently, Kat has tried her best to get in contact with her, and she suspects it is due to the fact that every single person they work with has decided to not really speak to her anymore in light of what she did.
She does feel sympathetic towards Kat in that it has to suck to be so excluded, but she is afraid of spending any kind of time with Kat, for fear of putting her job at risk.
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“At the end of the day, she’s in this situation because of her own….actions,” she said.
“I know I’m being incredibly selfish, but I also don’t want to jeopardize my position by socializing with her….”
She’s left wondering if it’s terrible of her to avoid Kat altogether.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“…She still works there? Jesus things have to be tense around the office. She’s a sh*tty person who did a sh*tty thing and several people were hurt in the process. Don’t touch it with a 10-foot pole, she brought this one upon herself.”
“You aren’t being incredibly selfish, Kat made an active decision to act in a way that could jeopardize her job and relationships. Kat owns that not you.”
“This is a sad situation. What a sh*tty workplace that photos and videos of her got leaked to the office.”
“I get that that was likely one person’s actions but damn does that just destroy the workplace culture. I’d feel so uncomfortable working there.”
“You have the right to feel uncomfortable and need distance from your friend and to even not want to be friends anymore.”
“Your friend likely does feel very sad and does feel like she is losing people. It is the consequences for her actions though.”
“If you care about her I would let her down gently. Or if it feels right you can tell her you need space to reflect and focus on yourself right now. You don’t have to make a final decision about the friendship right now unless you feel totally sure.”
“Kat might not be working there long anymore…that’s what I would hope for. What an uncomfortable situation to be in, I’d probably just give Kat a heads up that you’re too busy to connect.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say about all this here.