A 27-year-old woman is engaged to her fiancé named Jack, and their wedding will be happening next June.
Right now, she’s in the process of mailing out all of the save the dates for their wedding, but she’s stuck on whether or not to invite one of her own family members.
You see, Jack and her cousin Cass were “friends with benefits” while they were in college. This happened all throughout their freshman and junior years on an on and off basis.
This bride-to-be had no idea that Jack and Cass had been involved in any way since she didn’t even know Jack until after college.
On top of that, Cass and Jack didn’t take any photos with each other since it wasn’t a committed relationship.
When this bride-to-be did find out about Jack and her cousin Cass, she definitely felt weird about it.
Jack and Cass were together well before she met Jack, so, despite the fact that it does bother her, she doesn’t think she has any right to be upset.
Anyway, last weekend this bride-to-be was sitting down with her mom to plan out the guest list, and she noticed her mom had wanted to invite all of her cousins.
“I told her that I don’t want Cass there because it’s awkward for me if a woman my soon to be husband has “been with” over 100 times is at our literal wedding,” she explained.
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“It just seems so weird. My fiancé said he doesn’t care either way but sees how it could be weird for me, so he’s cool with it.”
She did point out that she never told her mom about Cass and Jack; her mom found out from her sister, who is Cass’s mom, because Cass confides in her mom about everything.
Her mom freaked out on her about wanting to keep Cass out of the wedding, and it doesn’t help that Cass is actually her goddaughter.
Her mom thinks that the past should be left behind and feels that Jack and Cass did not cheat on her, so Cass needs to be invited.
This bride-to-be responded that she will invite whoever she wants to her wedding, and she gets a final say for not inviting people as well.
Her mom truly feels a wedding should include the whole family, and she is insisting Cass should have an invitation to the wedding.
“She even called her sister (Cass’s mom) who then called me and said I need to get over it,” she said.
“I texted Cass and she was kinda short with me about it. She said she gets it and didn’t really argue but her texts were very short and way more formal than she normally is if that makes sense.”
She mentioned that she and Jack are paying for 1/3rd of the wedding, Jack’s parents are paying for 1/3rd, and then her mom is paying for 1/3rd.
She’s now wondering if it’s awful of her to exclude Cass, but she isn’t even that close to her and doesn’t spend a lot of time with her.
How would you deal with this?
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